Narcissist Mom, Narcissist Dad
The Differences Between Your Narcissist Mother and Your Narcissist Father
For our purposes here, I’ll be talking about the most malignant narcissists. Narcissism, like most personality disorders, presents on a spectrum. Most of us are at least a little bit self-absorbed in one way or another. But the malignant narcissist lives only for him- or herself, and in the end loves only him- or herself. Period. He or she is willing to use up any family member until you are exhausted in every sense of the word. Narcissists will unrepentantly take your time, your energy, your money, your physical strength, your mental strength, and instead of saying “thank you,” they’ll shame you when you’re too tired or too poor to come through for them.
If this sounds like someone you know, please understand there is almost no hope of this person ever changing or mending their ways. If it’s one of your parents, and you choose to stay engaged with them, you must put firm boundaries in place, learn to say “No,” and mean it. Because a malignant narcissist, even your own parent, will take you down and then have no problem blaming you for your “failures” or “weaknesses.” Malignant narcissists are literally dangerous to the people around them, and it’s imperative you protect yourself and your family, even if you feel guilty about it.
