It’s Okay to Chase Happiness
Happiness is elusive to most people. Somewhere along the way of life, we get lost on the path in search of our happiness. That’s because we don’t know where we’re going. We don’t sit and think about what happiness would like for us. We have some abstract idea in our head that we think would make us happy, but how many people actually visualize living life like that.
Define Your Happiness
It’s important to know what you want if you want to attain it. I see people putting up vision boards and making bucket lists. Excellent ideas but, if you want to make it simple. Just write down in one sentence what you want your life to look like. What’s interesting is as you think about it, you’ll probably realize that there are things you never even considered. You’ll realize that there are things you should’ve let go long ago and things that are not so hard to attain at all.
Give it a shot, define your happiness.
Happiness Scares Us
This is so common. I think it has to do with cultural or religious upbringing for many. We’re never supposed to be too happy. If we’re happy, and there’s nothing wrong with our lives, then something very, very wrong is about to happen.So we make sure never to be too happy. We always look for ways to make sure that there are things that are wrong in our life.
There’s nothing wrong with seeking happiness. It’s something that I tell myself every day. I’d rather be happy for one moment in time, than be scared of ever having it.
We’ve Actually Never Known True Happiness…
So we cling to being miserable.
The more I try to learn about why people do what they do, I realize that most of us are shaped by our childhood experiences. So someone who has had a bland childhood probably doesn’t know what it’s like to be truly happy. We carry this baggage with us into our adulthood and because we don’t know any better, we think this is how life is meant to be. It’s not just our present circumstances that make us this way but also our past.
I never understood why someone who didn’t have a happy childhood, shouldn’t seek to have a happy adulthood. But sometimes, it’s not all that easy to break free of our past. It takes a lot of work and often professional help. As hard as it may be, these are not the kind of people you can always help and sometimes you just need to let go before they drag you down. Just because you’ve never known happiness before, doesn’t mean there’s no hope.
We need to realize that we are not resigned to our fates. There’s always the hope that tomorrow life will be better. It’s often hard to make big changes. Sometimes, circumstances don’t let you lead your life differently. But, that doesn’t mean you should stop trying. There’s always a way out.
One important consideration is how your life affects others. We don’t live in a bubble and often what you do has consequences on others. If you choose to have other people in your life, you owe it to them to seek happiness despite the circumstances.
We all have the right to be happy and that’s what you should always strive for.