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How are Kink and Non-Monogamy Romantic?
How are Kink and Non-Monogamy Romantic?
You don’t need princes to rescue you for romance — now it’s bondage and toys and group sex.
Anne Shark
Mar 5
What To Do When Your Partner Is Dating Other People, But You’re Not
What To Do When Your Partner Is Dating Other People, But You’re Not
Success in polyamory can come at different speeds, so prepare for envy, or risk getting hurt
Thomas H. Brand
Mar 3
When Your Love’s Other Partner Is Your Friend
When Your Love’s Other Partner Is Your Friend
Metamours show that jealousy isn’t the only option
Elle Beau ❇︎
Mar 1
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An American Student in a Parisian Summer: Part II “That night, I walked.”
An American Student in a Parisian Summer: Part II “That night, I walked.”
J. B. MacMatheson
J. B. MacMatheson
Apr 15
An American Student in a Parisian Summer: Part I
An American Student in a Parisian Summer: Part I
J. B. MacMatheson
J. B. MacMatheson
Apr 3
That Time I Fell for a Woman
That Time I Fell for a Woman
She held my desire in her hand and breathed it in, exhaling it casually in my direction.
Anne Shark
Mar 17
Kink and Romance — A Tale of Two ‘Lies’?
Kink and Romance — A Tale of Two ‘Lies’?
If kink is a lie we tell ourselves to make the sex better, romance is a lie we tell ourselves to make the love better.
Bill Fickes
Mar 15
Borderline Cheating Helped me End Unfulfilling Relationships — Until it Led to Polyamory
Borderline Cheating Helped me End Unfulfilling Relationships — Until it Led to Polyamory
In long-term relationships, I find myself thinking my sexuality is dead. Is polyamory the answer?
Anne Shark
Feb 26
Submission Guidelines for If Not Romance
Submission Guidelines for If Not Romance
Redefining love, romance, and sex
Anne Shark
Feb 19
My Relationship Became a Virtual Fantasyland
My Relationship Became a Virtual Fantasyland
He asked if I’d give him instructions on how to give head to another guy. I did.
Anne Shark
Jan 20
What To Do When Your Boyfriend Won’t Ogle You When You’re Naked?
What To Do When Your Boyfriend Won’t Ogle You When You’re Naked?
I’m standing naked in the bathroom. Hot water is pouring from the showerhead and the mirrors are beginning to steam up.
Anne Shark
Jan 12
Is my Pandemic Romance Over?
Is my Pandemic Romance Over?
Or is it transitioning to something new?
Anne Shark
Jan 7
I Set My Boyfriend up With Another Woman
I Set My Boyfriend up With Another Woman
But first, she rejected me
Anne Shark
Sep 3, 2020
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