Part 1-My First Marriage Felt Forced

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Forced! No Choice!

Photo Description: A woman dressed in black is laying on the floor with a look of life is absolutely over. She has reached her limits. Her wedding ring is off her finger laying on the floor next to her.
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I gave my quitting notice at the three jobs I was currently employed at, sold all my things at a yard sale, and booked a train ticket to California. I had no home, no job, and no belongings.

Two weeks after I arrived in California, my boyfriend proposed. In shock, I sat silent. “Marriage? No Way!” I thought to myself. Never will I get married.

He said, “Marry me or go back where you came from.”

My jaw dropped, “Return to what? I had nothing to return to.”

“What an option. Marriage or return to the Hell I just came from?”

After many tears and agonizing, I agreed to get married. I felt I had no choice.

That marriage lasted ten years. It ended when my husband said, “I’m moving back to where we first met, I want you to come with me.”

“No.” I said. “I’m staying. I’ve built a life and profession here.” We went through the process of a simple divorce, which ended up taking a year.

“A good marriage isn’t something you find; It’s something you make. “— Gary L. Thomas



Bobbi Lynn Gibson-Educator (Retired)

Educator 23 years (retired): WONDER * EXPLORE * EXPERIENCE! I write about my creative adventures.