3 Good Reasons I’m Waiting to Start a Family

Even Though I Really Want One Now

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I’m almost 36 years old and I want to start a family—I want a spouse and children. But I’m single and childless. And I’m choosing not to start dating again right now.

Here’s why:

I Want to Be a Provider for My Children

I expect that my husband and I will share working and child-rearing responsibilities. So, in my ideal scenario, we’ll be a dual-income family.

That being said, I want to make enough money to provide for my children myself — at least in terms of their basic needs. (I figure that with my husband’s income, we can take trips to Europe as a family, for example.)

Specifically, I want my income from writing to be enough to cover expenses like:

• a house payment
• a car payment
• a private school for my children, if we decide as a family that that’s what’s best for them
• monthly expenses like gas for my car and utilities for my house
• et cetera

I’ll be honest with you: right now, I’m not making enough to cover these expenses for myself, let alone for my hypothetical children. (I live with my parents).