3 Unnoticed Ways Kids ( Not Babies ) Are a Cute Source of Wisdom
How to learn to enjoy life from the natural curiosity engines.
It would be weird to say I have more kid-friends than adults. But there was a stage in my life when the case was valid. Back when the lockdown lifted after the first wave, I moved to a new place and got to meet exciting people of all ages.
Kids are super-curious by nature, so they caught my attention. They even flashed some of my childhood memories, but once I realised you couldn’t be yourself with kids, I started maintaining distance because it was eventually overdue.
I still see kids in my society, but I don’t hang out with them often. Hello! I have more important things in my life to take care of.
As I’m a lifelong learner, I grow from every interaction I have with people. You might think it’s exhausting, but finding novelty happens effortlessly for a lifelong learner brain.
Here are three pieces of wisdom I learned from kids that I either didn’t get to practice enough in my harsh childhood, or I did get it but didn’t carry them into adulthood because of social conditioning until a few years ago.
Some kids are shy by nature. But, once they get comfortable with you, they share all kinds of crap without having any idea about boundaries. That’s what makes them easy to connect with anyone.
Although, I won’t suggest burning boundaries and talking about your wet dream to everyone who feels comfortable with you. Being on the receiving end of honesty can feel like a drag when the second person breaks the limits of social norms.
Show honesty once in a while when it can improve the argument. You’ll thank yourself.
Kids are learning machines on steroids.
This one’s a winner. As we grow up, we ask less and less insightful questions. Because of the cancel culture, we think:
- “What if my question is hokum?”
- “What if my question stages me as stupid?”
- “What if no one gives a jack about my thoughts?”
I get it. Asking stupid questions is neither a sign of intelligence nor a learner. But you know what’s shocking about kids? They don’t know which questions are trash. Kids are learning machines on steroids.
The same goes for adulthood too. We’re also learning machines. Unlike kids, the only ingredient missing in our curiosity is thoughtful reasoning.
Kids don’t have to justify themselves because of zero responsibilities. But we are answerable to some people. So for that, if we intend reason-based questioning, we can be as adept learners as kids are.
Playfulness is more than about physical movement in the park with plastic horses and swing sets. It’s about gamifying your life.
If you can gamify your daily routine, you can make your life enjoyable. Be it productivity, habit development, household chores or even sleeping.
Playfulness is more than about physical movement in the park with plastic horses and swing sets.
Playfulness helps me wake up every day with purpose, write in the morning in a flow state, control time management and finish my day on a peaceful note.
Find a healthy way to reward yourself in any task you find challenging. The dopamine hit from the reward motivates you to keep hustling.
For example, take the biggest challenge of our generation: sleep.
Whenever I sleep on time, not only do I wake up on time full of hope, I also reward myself with a delicious breakfast: almonds, walnuts, raisins, cashews, apples, bananas, bread, chicken spread, dates, oats, etc.
Because of my active lifestyle, I eat so much just after rising from the dead at 6 am that my next meal is lunch at 1 pm.
Wisdom is all around us, but the simplest way to absorb it is by incorporating a learner’s mindset.
And who is the fastest learner than kids? No answer? #MeToo.
Once a friend asked me, “Do you plan on becoming a self-help author?”
Although my answer may change after five years of gaining new experiences, I still learn from everyone I meet.
Embracing the learner’s mindset like a child makes you insanely curious about your needs and wants. And most self-help authors tell you to get your shit together. How am I supposed to give life-changing advice when I find everyone’s life insightful? It’s a paradox I’ve accepted not to fight.
I don’t plan on becoming a self-help author anytime soon. But I already am an author of my life, gathering wisdom from my friends, waving at kids, insightful conversations with strangers, the books I read and from your responses on my blogs.
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Sanjeev is a writer, mentor and recovering shopaholic from India. He writes about lifelong learning, personal growth, and positive psychology. When he’s not busy with his muse, he’s sweating either in a workout or mental party with music. He also chronicles his writing and fitness journey on Instagram. He’s putting fires on Twitter too.