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Breaking Up With My Best Friend
What I Gained And Learned After Ending A 20 Year Friendship
Hindsight
Upon reflection of the many reasons why I decided to end my friendship of 20 years with my best friend, I came to the broad conclusion that there are two types of people in the world.
There are those who are stuck in their ways, unwilling to grow, or see beyond themselves, and there are those who embrace their flaws, and welcome change and self growth.
Don’t get me wrong, I am a strong believer that everyone is doing the best they can with where they are mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, etc.
However, if the behavior of a person is acting in ways that goes against your core values, and who you are as a human being, even if they’re your friend of 20 years, it is always OK to walk away.
Backstory
When I first met my (ex) best friend, I was 17 years old. I was young, wild, and free.
My friend (we will call her Erika), was a young, newly single mom with a wild, fiery side. Erika was 22 years old, which made her that much ‘cooler’ in my 17 year old mind.
I had just graduated from high school and moved across the country from Boston, MA. to Los Angeles, CA…
