How to Stay Strong in Tough Times

Strategies to help you get through the dark days.

Leah Njoki
Dec 12, 2020 · 5 min read
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Rip Off the Band-Aid.

In the first few months after his girlfriend died, Jack took to heavy drinking and overeating to mask his pain. He spent hours playing video games because he couldn’t bring himself to process the pain. The truth? Jack is no different from us.

Let People See Beneath Your Hard Shell.

The good news is that you never have to do this alone. You should always ask for help. Please don’t be like me. I never asked for help when I went through the darkest points of my life. As my marriage fell into pieces, dropping a bomb on my vision for a dream family, I tried to brave through it all.

Remember You Are Here to Create a Ripple.

One day, a morbidly obese Jack received a note from his niece asking if he could walk her down the aisle on her wedding day. That simple text became the big moment, the point that changed his entire life’s trajectory. He finally understood that his life was much bigger than him.

“Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.”

You are not here just to serve yourself. You are here to create a ripple that will become a wave that will touch many. So if ever you come to a fork down the road of your life, pause for a moment and remember it’s not about you. Our lives are offerings meant to be poured into the lives of others.

Final Thoughts.

Be comfortable being uncomfortable. It’s only by sitting down with the pain that you can be able to process it and find ways of managing it. Ask for help, because there are plenty of people willing to help you navigate through your emotions.

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Leah Njoki

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Dreamer&Fitness Enthusiast | Writer on Love, Relationships & Self-Improvement| Featured on The Good Men Project, Thought Catalog, Ladders|Blog: ownyourspark.com

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Dreamer&Fitness Enthusiast | Writer on Love, Relationships & Self-Improvement| Featured on The Good Men Project, Thought Catalog, Ladders|Blog: ownyourspark.com

ILLUMINATION-Curated

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