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I Broke Up With Sex Three Years Ago
What I Learned About Myself and How My Life Changed For The Better (a perfect practice during a global pandemic?)
Why Did I Decide To Turn To Celibacy?
Three years ago, I found myself in a unique situation. I had just broken up with my partner of three years, and felt as though I was completely done with dating and relationships.
Not only because of the sadness and heartbreak, but also because I realized that I had never been single long enough to truly fall in love with myself and discover who I was as an individual.
From the tender age of 14, I jumped from long term relationship to long term relationship. I developed codependent thinking in that I was validated as a human being only when in a relationship. It literally felt as though I couldn’t function in the world alone.
For whatever reason, my last break up triggered the realization within myself that I needed as much time as it took alone, to find myself as a woman, stand on my own two feet, and deeply love myself.
For me, taking time to be alone meant, zero sex, zero casual dating, complete celibacy.
