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It Took Two Divorces for Me to Learn What Destroys a Marriage
I also discovered what makes a relationship thrive
Today I got divorced. Again.
The process was surprisingly simple. I met in a small room with a magistrate. My ex, who lives out of state, was there by way of Zoom.
The magistrate swore us both in and asked us a few questions. I signed a paper. Boom — divorced.
It took all of 20 minutes. I know because there was a large digital clock on the wall counting down the seconds until the next hearing.
The process was technically simple, sure. My ex and I were getting divorced without children, lawyers, or arguments over the division of assets.
Emotionally, however, it was anything but.
We both thought our love would last. We enjoyed many happy years together, building supporting evidence that pointed toward forever.
And when we started growing apart. We hurt each other. It came to a point where I could no longer stand to be touched by him.
And the juxtaposition of 15 years of highs and lows set against a few minutes of paperwork dissolving all legal ties was truly astounding.
