SELF

Make Your Search for Life Purpose Easier With the Ninth Form of Intelligence

Answering profound questions about human existence is a skill you can master.

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Recently, a friend asked me whether we have only one life purpose or keeps changing as we grow up.

His existential crisis goes on and off, so I wasn’t surprised when he caught me off-guard with the question.

If I said our purpose keeps on changing, he would feel more lost than he already was. But I didn’t care to hide the truth.

He needed to hear and feel that he is not alone. So do you if you have similar questions like him.

Dreams change. Yes.

In school, my dream was to enter prestigious IIT colleges. Then once I saw the intense competition even after getting into college, I realised that the dream life doesn’t mean a free life. I achieved my ideal life, but it didn’t get easier.

Living the dream is not about enjoying all day long in a beach house. It means you appreciate doing what you love and accept uncertainties and the waves that come with them. You signed up for it. Don’t run away now.

You might’ve had a similar experience like me if your dream job didn’t feel like one.

Why our purpose keeps on changing?

In the book Flow, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi said,

“The idea of self that we have in our mind becomes complex with time.”

It means you’re constantly learning about your likes and dislikes as you experience new features in all the areas of life, including career, relationships, lifestyle, habits, etc.

Finding purpose is easier for some people. Those who know about the lifelong learning process even understand it’s reasonable to change your mind if your current status doesn’t align with your personality.

Unlearning requires mental strength. So, don’t back down if it doesn’t feel comfortable at first.

The rare trait which helps in finding purpose.

Intelligence is sexy. But there is no standard to measure intelligence because we often misunderstand it with the education level.

Here’s why existential intelligence ( EI ) helps you answer deep questions about life:

EI uses philosophy to answer questions about human existence.

I don’t know how much EI we need, but whenever my coworkers talk to me about life purpose, existential crisis, or long term goals, they always leave with an insight that they want to apply desperately.

It’s because when I was fed up with reading philosophy and psychology for self-improvement, I realised the moment when I wanted to use the knowledge to see the impact in my life.

It turns out the more your share your knowledge, the more faith you have in yourself because when you see your wisdom changes someone’s life even in the slightest positive direction, the shared sense of purpose makes you unstoppable.

Writing is one of the ways that I strengthen my faith in my purpose.

Final words

The entire self-help industry revolves around guiding you towards one True North so that you wake up every day with a smile on your face.

But real life is not that simple. The moment I understood that we’re constantly learning about ourselves as we accumulate experiences, it helps not attaching ourselves too much to an outcome.

I’ve found my purpose to continue being a writer and publish one blog daily until I hit a six-figure business. I don’t know when I’ll reach it, but I’ll be far ahead from where I’m right now.

My purpose may even change in the future, but I won’t realise the worth of the new adventure if I don’t live my current privileges to the fullest. I just exaggerated the meaning of “present-mindedness” in the previous sentence, but more awareness doesn’t hurt.

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Sanjeev is a writer, mentor and recovering shopaholic from India. He writes about lifelong learning, personal growth, and positive psychology. When he’s not busy with his muse, he’s sweating either in a workout or badminton. He also chronicles his writing and fitness journey on Instagram. He shares daily inspiration with #ThoughtForTheDay on Twitter.

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Sanjeev Yadav

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Writer • Mentor • Recovering Shopaholic • IITR 2019 • ✍🏼 Personal Growth, Positive Psychology & Lifelong Learning• IG: sanjeevai • List: sanjeevai.ck.page

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