What a surprise
Self-conscious? Why worry, especially about strangers?
Studies actually found a pattern in 20-year stages. We surprisingly reversed its final stage!!
At one time, I was terrified to get on a dance floor, speak in front of people, and do any other activity that put me in the spotlight. That was true even if I was in the middle of a crowd, like on a dance floor. Other dancers around me were watching, judging!
That all changed around age 38 when I had to teach a computer class from videos at work. The first day, I said “Please fill out these forms.” Those papers rattled, they shook so much. For the 3rd class, I tossed the worthless videos and rewrote the class.
Presenting that class was a turning point
Especially for all other public activities
I started giving presentations at local professional groups and teaching more classes. Most of those activities revolved around work. Other public activities took much longer.
Rules of Self-consciousness
Why worry about what people think? Your manager and family are important, but acquaintances and strangers? Are you nuts? Fortunately, such sensitivity…
