Standing Out Is Easier When We Embrace These 3 Qualities

Be a part of the solution, not the problem.

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We all feel good when we get respect in our social circle. But the earned respect goes a long way. The demanding one is not genuine.

In the first half of my college life, I threw tonnes of pretentious jokes to be the funniest person in the room that did not help me make friends or become an interesting person to be around.

Once I graduated from college and embraced my extrovert nature in forging healthy connections, I’ve found the following three qualities set you apart from the crowd because they require courage.

#1. Adaptability.

“Be a part of the solution, not the problem.”

I didn’t know if my friends and I would survive the first lockdown that began in March 2020.

Now it’s more than one year, and we have learned to live according to the new regulations.

Our minds are flexible to an extent we won’t know. But being adaptable makes you suppress the instinct of being a chronic complainer. You’ll become a part of the solution, which is always a positive point in a group.

#2. Curiosity.

I started writing when the lockdown began in March 2020.

In more than one year of writing almost daily, I’ve found learning in your free time is the distinguishing quality that separates wise people from stupid ones.

Most people who seem intelligent are often just well-read. When I learned the benefits of reading, I couldn’t help myself from applying the lessons in my life and sharing the stories here on Medium.

#3. Humility.

My friends enjoy it when they go back to their hometown. I don’t get much leisure time. Because I have to do most of the work as my dad is living alone.

I want to help my father, but he doesn’t like it when I mess up, which frustrates me.

Humility is the trait that separates you from the crowd when you’re facing an inevitable misfortune.

It can be missing your bus, losing your wallet, or sometimes even slacking the entire day without doing anything.

Humility relieves the pressure to control everything and focus on what we can control: our attitude.

Final words

I didn’t mention a sense of humour because it was evident in the introduction section when I said pretentious jokes.

Standing out in a group is about setting your identity as distinguishing and far from the copycats.

I didn’t know how many benefits you can reap by simply being yourself and practising the lesson we learned as a kid in our adulthood also.

Here are the three traits I discussed to make you stand out by embracing them and practising in daily life:

  • Adaptability to survive any unexpected external force.
  • Curiosity to shine with your creative side.
  • Humility when life runs in an unexpected direction.

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Sanjeev is a writer, mentor and recovering shopaholic from India. He writes about lifelong learning, personal growth, and positive psychology. When he’s not busy with his muse, he’s sweating either in a workout or badminton. He also chronicles his writing and fitness journey on Instagram. He shares daily inspiration with #ThoughtForTheDay on Twitter.



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Sanjeev Yadav

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