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The Art of Communicating: Using a peripheral view.
“It is a continuous interchange between two consciousnesses… a continuous intersubjectivity that goes both ways all the time.” Ursula K. Le Guin
Author Jim Rohn once said, “If you just communicate, you can get by. But if you communicate skillfully, you can work miracles.” Most textbooks and self-help manuals about communication are based on models that are seldom about what is between and beyond the interactions of individuals. There is assertiveness training, refuting irrational thoughts, conflict resolution, and so on. All without the infinitely wider contextual applications of living. Adversarial disagreements and polarization are at a high level, and couples therapists are overloaded with the presenting problem of “They are having communication discord.”
Take this excellent thought by Ursula K. Le Guin about the potential of a more profound and more rewarding Interpersonal communication experience, which ultimately is a process of blending with another. “Any two things that oscillate at about the same interval, if they’re physically near each other, will gradually tend to lock in and pulse at the same interval.” This is like seeing two pendulums starting at different speeds that eventually move in harmony.
This process is available to humans. Women in a college dorm will often experience their menstrual…
