Why You Need To Stop Searching For Love and Romance
How trying to find ‘the one’ is a self-sabotaging mindset and what you should be doing instead.
It feels like my entire life I’ve been searching for love — something similar to what I’ve seen in the movies, someone who would want me as much as I want them, somebody who understands and accepts me despite all my flaws and weirdness, someone who I could truly feel comfortable around, and someone who I could always depend on being there for me.
What I’ve noticed throughout my search is that the harder I searched the less likely was I able to find love nor even be given the chance to foster love in a relationship.
This paradox was made completely clear to me when I noticed that all of the relationships that I have fallen into in my past were completely unexpected — meaning I wasn’t actively pursuing a relationship during these times.
Ultimately, I met the woman I truly fell in love with the same night I told my best friend about how being single wasn’t so bad and how going out to pursue women was just a cause of more stress — that instead, we should capitalize on our youth to just go and have fun and do the things that we want to do with our life.
