3 Signs The Man In Your Life Isn’t Your Forever Person, According To Psychology
If you’ve recently started dating someone, you’re probably wondering if they’re "the one" or if you’re just wasting your time.
Even if we can’t look into a crystal ball and find the answers, psychology can help us.
There are countless studies on relationship success and longevity that provide insight into the behaviors and patterns that indicate whether a relationship will last.
Looking into this study, we found eight signs that the person in your life may not be your forever person.
1) Your values don’t align
One of the most important signs of compatibility between partners is shared values.
Values refer to what we value most in life. Something like this:
- Family
- Career
- Health and wellbeing
- Kindness and compassion
- Honesty
- Spirituality
- Financial success
Our values govern our actions, actions, and decisions, so if you and your partner have opposing values, there can be a lot of tension and misunderstanding.
You may not notice it at first, but the difference in values becomes a problem later on. Psychological research proves this.
For example, his 2017 study with researchers at the University of Utah found that having similar attitudes with your partner increases relationship satisfaction.
Therefore, assess whether your core values align with your partner’s.
2) You have contrasting life goals
If your husband imagines a different future than you, I hate to break it to you, but he’s not your forever person. Because it is incredibly difficult to compromise and work around his two conflicting visions in life.
Suppose you dream of getting married and starting a family. If your partner doesn’t like children and doesn’t believe in marriage, the relationship won’t work in the long run.
Or maybe you’ve always wanted to live closer to your family back home. If your husband dreams of living and working in another country, you will definitely encounter some problems later.
3) There is a lack of trust
Without trust, long-term partnerships cannot be successful, because trust is the basis of a safe and stable partnership.
Research professor Dr. Brené Brown explains that partners build trust through small, consistent actions over time.
Trust is further eroded when your partner lies, hides things, or acts in ways that make you feel insecure.
But every time he shows you that you can trust him, his seven elements of trust, which are essential for a successful relationship, are strengthened.
- Boundaries
- Reliability
- Accountability
- Confidentiality
- Integrity
- Non Judgment
- Generosity
Additionally, research shows that the lower the trust in a relationship, the more conflict there will be and the more likely it will be to break up.
Therefore, if a partner is not willing to work on building trust, they cannot remain a partner forever.
Final thoughts
These psychological principles behind a long-lasting relationship can bring clarity and help you make informed decisions about your partnership. However, these signs can be difficult to recognize, especially when emotions are involved.
Therefore, it may be helpful to share this article with a trusted friend.
This outside perspective can help you better assess the health of your relationship and predict its longevity.
