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3 Tricks I Use to Live a Fulfilling Life as an Introvert

Yes, you’ll have to socialize.

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Being an introvert can really suck sometimes. It can feel like you’re missing out on life. Personally, there’s been times when friends would invite me out and I would skip. I’d wake up the next morning and find social media posts of an amazing night I forced myself to miss. The idea of putting myself out there and socializing with random people just doesn’t appeal to me. I would much rather stay home with a good book or story-driven video game instead of socializing with people I don’t know.

But when I realized my fiance was missing out on her life as an extrovert, I decided to search for ways that would let her live a life I knew she missed dearly. During my quest to better myself for her, I learned three tricks that have helped me greatly in everyday life. Hopefully, they can do for you what they did for me.

Accept That You’re An Introvert

Being an introvert, you more than likely spend a lot of time in your own head. If you’re of mature age, you should have already come to the realization that you’re an introvert. But if you haven’t realized this, it’s time to accept reality. There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. But unless you’re willing to take proactive steps to understand that you’re a bit different from others, you’ll never be able to live a full life. Accepting that you’re an introvert allows you to open the door to a world of possibilities usually reserved for extroverts.

Be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

At first, you’re going to constantly feel uncomfortable doing the things extroverts do. I’ll be honest with you it’s going to suck. You’re going to wonder what’s the point of doing these things and why should I even try? There are still times when I feel so uncomfortable that I want to completely leave the situation. But then I remember that I need to do this and start to become comfortable with the reality of me being uncomfortable.

This is actually easier than it sounds. Sure, at some point you’re going to feel like you want to immediately leave, just as I often do. But soon after you’ll become so caught up in what you’re doing at the moment that you’ll forget about ever being uncomfortable. The thing is, you have to be completely willing to submerge yourself in the activity. Maybe I can best explain this through a recent personal experience of mine.

My fiance recently wanted me to go to an old friends wedding. I hated the idea of going somewhere filled with people who I didn’t know. Truthfully, it sounded like a nightmare. When I got there, it was every bit as uncomfortable as I thought it would be. I immediately wanted to ask my fiance what time she wanted to leave. But then I allowed my self to view the event the same way my fiance viewed it. I became happy for two people whom I’ve never met, and before I knew it I was comfortable with being there. I started participating in the same sort of things my extrovert fiance was.

Find A Hobby That Allows You To Express Yourself

As introverts, we don’t necessarily like to express ourselves. We prefer to stay in our head rather than communicate our feeling to others. Yet, it’s still incredibly important to be able to express yourself reliably. This is when your favourite hobby can help greatly. For me, it’s always been writing. Even before I found Medium I would scribble thoughts down on random notepads. Most of my writing didn’t make sense. I wrote down my thoughts as a way to release everything that would take place in my mind.

You’re on Medium so there’s a good chance that you’re able to express yourself through writing as I do. But I’d also suggest you try new hobbies. Expressing yourself as an introvert doesn’t mean you must only choose one hobby. Branch out and try solo-activities that allow you to express yourself in ways you can’t publically. Writing isn’t my only form of expression either. I also rely on driving to help release my inner thoughts. I can’t explain it, but there’s something about going for a drive that allows me to just release myself in a way not many other activities allow me to do. Driving gives me a sense of confidence that enables me to feel as if I can do anything. If you experiment a little with different activities, I’m positive you’ll something that gives you that same sense of confidence.

I forced myself to find these tricks to benefit my fiance. I love her unconditionally and there’s nothing I wouldn’t do to make her happy. Even if that means doing things introverts usually hate. But I’d also like to tell you that there’s not a damn thing wrong with being an introvert. The world needs introverts. Bill Gates, Rosa Parks and Albert Einstein were all introverts who changed the world for the better. So when you’re down on yourself about being an introvert, remember that without introverts we’d live in a world without modern computers and black rights. And if you want to change things up a bit and experience some of the things extroverts do, try out my three tricks. You never know where they may lead you.

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