5 Cognitive Traps That Make You Lazy and Frustrated
An unexamined life is not worth living.
Are you someone who likes to set goals for yourself but always ends up giving up halfway?
For example, making plans for a weekend getaway but ending up staying at home and sleeping all day; wanting to finish your work early but continuously procrastinating until the deadline; intending to use your free time to improve yourself but repeatedly wasting it on playing games and watching videos…
Every time after indulge in such behavior, you start feeling regretful, followed by a period of despair, and then the cycle starts all over again.
But have you ever considered that these problems may not be because you lack self-discipline or willpower?
Nobel laureate in economics, Daniel Kahneman, concluded after conducting numerous cognitive experiments that the human brain instinctively tends to prefer doing simple and comfortable things.
In other words, being lazy and frustrated is actually natural.
Only by improving our cognition can we avoid the trap of instant gratification and confront our nature to achieve true self-discipline.
Today, I will summarize five common cognitive misconceptions for you. After reading them, I hope you can also overcome laziness and reboot your life.
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The Rearview Mirror Effect
In the book “The Miracle Morning,” author Hal Elrod introduces the concept of the “Rearview Mirror Effect.”
It refers to the tendency of individuals to constantly dwell on past failures before attempting new endeavors.
By believing that their past defines their future, they inadvertently limit their personal growth.
For example, if someone struggled academically as a child, they might think they have limited intelligence and can never catch up with others, even if they put in effort.
Similarly, after experiencing heartbreak in a relationship, they may become closed off and reluctant to form deep connections with others.
One setback can make them feel completely defeated, thinking they are incapable of overcoming difficulties.
If one continually focuses on the rearview mirror of life, they will perpetually live in pessimism, trapping themselves in a limited perspective.
In the book, Hal Elrod shares his own personal experience.
At the age of 20, he was involved in a severe car accident that left him with multiple fractures, bedridden, and unable to move.
His career plummeted, and his girlfriend left him. Initially, Hal spent his days in tears, believing his life was over.
However, after a period of intense despair, he realized that dwelling on his circumstances wouldn’t change what had already happened.
The only way forward was to look ahead and find a way out of the pain.
So, he stopped feeling sorry for himself and began the painful process of rehabilitation.
Within a year, his physical condition started to improve, and he regained the ability to walk normally.
Eventually, he even wrote a book about his story.
Today, Hal Elrod not only earns a six-figure income but has also become a motivational speaker, delivering speeches worldwide.
As Yang Jiang once said, “Life is not elsewhere; the present moment is everything.”
Those who live in the past will never fully experience today. Remember, experiences are in the past, but you are living in the present.
Don’t look back, don’t let the past influence you. Only by cutting ties with past pain can we strive for a better future.
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The Bike Shed Effect
British historian Cyril Parkinson once wrote a story:
A committee was given two tasks: to build a nuclear power plant and, while they were at it, to construct a bike shed for the company’s employees.
The result was that the discussion on the nuclear power plant took less than two and a half minutes, while the bike shed took 45 minutes.
Why did this happen?
The author explained that people tend to focus on trivial matters to avoid dealing with significant issues.
Many people in life tend to go about their days entangled in trivialities, exhausting themselves without achieving much.
Psychologist De Fen Zhang pointed out that individuals like this will live in chaos throughout their lives.
They may endure hardships and exert great effort, but they end up wasting their lives.
On the other hand, those who accomplish great things never waste their energies on small matters.
As the saying goes, when you focus your mind on one thing, everything else becomes achievable.
To change the current situation, we must first learn to manage our energy.
By prioritizing the important and disregarding the insignificant, by channeling all our energy into one crucial point, we can overcome procrastination and effectively handle each present task.
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The Sour Grapes Effect
In Aesop’s Fables, there is a story like this:
A little fox was tempted by the grapes hanging from a vine, but no matter how hard it tried, it couldn’t reach them. So, it claimed that the grapes were sour and pretended to be uninterested.
Sometimes, we are like that little fox.
When we can’t obtain something we desire, instead of reflecting on our own shortcomings, we find excuses to deceive ourselves.
Fang Hongjian in the novel “Fortress Besieged” is a typical example.
After studying abroad for four years without obtaining a degree, he claimed not to care about such empty titles;
As a teacher who couldn’t deliver lectures effectively, he consoled himself by saying that the students were just there to pass the time.
When he lost his job due to his incompetence, he attributed it to his lack of cunning.
For many years, Fang Hongjian has been making excuses for his own incompetence.
In the end, he squandered a winning hand and lived as a mediocre middle-aged man.
Qian Zhongshu once said, “The soul can be autonomous or self-deceptive.”
We can deceive ourselves, but we cannot deceive life.
Every excuse you find now will be recorded in the ledger of your life’s achievements and failures, becoming a heavy blow in the future.
Be honest with yourself in the days to come.
Only by continuously recognizing and correcting ourselves in the face of failure can we break through the various fortresses of reality and achieve a counterattack.
Changing your attitude is changing the trajectory of your life.
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Waterfall Effect
In psychology, there’s a phenomenon known as the “waterfall effect”.
A waterfall flows calmly and slowly outwards, but when it plunges into the pool below, it churns and splashes violently.
This waterfall is akin to a casual remark from someone else; seemingly innocuous, yet capable of stirring up a storm within you.
Moreover, the more sensitive a person is, the more frequently they experience this effect.
Bertrand Russell shared his story in his book “The Conquest of Happiness”:
He had a pessimistic outlook from a young age, and even the slightest disturbance from the outside world would unsettle him.
In his youth, he even contemplated suicide by throwing himself under a train.
After experiencing numerous breakdowns, he gradually realized:
The real problem wasn’t the idle gossip of others, but his own inner turmoil.
With an unsettled mind, storms never cease.
Once the mind is at peace, no matter how turbulent the external world may be, it’s merely a drop in the ocean for oneself.
Writer Roy T. Bennett also said:
“One of the greatest mental freedoms is truly not caring what anyone else thinks of you. Only when we need no approval from the outside world are we truly free.”
Life is short; don’t waste energy on internal conflicts.
Less self-criticism, more practical action.
Cultivate strong mental resilience, and you’ll break free from anxiety, opening a new chapter in life.
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The Horseshoe Nail Effect
In medieval Europe, there’s a story that goes like this:
Charles III and Count Henry were preparing for a decisive battle, but the stable boy, while shoeing Charles’s horse, accidentally missed one horseshoe nail, and Charles didn’t notice.
Little did he know, this oversight would bring him misfortune.
During the battle, Charles’s horse stumbled due to the imbalance caused by the missing nail, throwing him off and ultimately leading to his defeat.
Because of one small nail, an entire kingdom was lost.
This illustrates the chain reaction caused by neglecting a small matter.
Any small mistake, when propagated, can lead to earth-shattering changes in outcomes.
Yet, often, we tend to disregard such matters.
Thinking that skipping one workout, sleeping in a little longer, or completing a task with mediocre effort is inconsequential and can be made up for later.
Little do we realize, that opportunities in life are finite.
Time wasted cannot be reclaimed, mistakes cannot always be avoided, and every choice you make in the present directly influences your future.
Therefore, never underestimate the power of small things.
Those often overlooked areas often hide significant risks.
Handle every tiny “nail” properly, magnify the importance of significant matters, and pay attention to the smallest details.
Strive for excellence in all things, and life will reward you generously.
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Socrates once said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.”
We may stumble for a while, but we mustn’t remain in a state of decline forever.
Only through regular self-reflection can we identify our shortcomings and steer our lives back on track.
In the days ahead, beware of these cognitive traps.
Address your weaknesses, and enhance your abilities, and every effort you put in will translate into pleasant surprises life has in store for you.
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