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5 Reasons I Discovered Why a Man Falls Deeply in Love
Why dating is like job hunting: You have to do the work to find the perfect match
Love, Lies & Reality
I remember watching Bollywood movies where love is often depicted as idyllic — the handsome hero falling for the beautiful heroine drawn to her kohl-rimmed eyes or sweet smile. This was the complete opposite of what I’ve observed living in a city like Boston, where dating seems more like a job hunt.
You get matched, you feel a spark of hope, but nope — just a candle in the wind, or a total nightmare once you dig deeper. Or worse, you get ghosted — thanks to the emotionally immature, non-accountability crew out there. Dating feels like a hunt, whether in a pub or on a dating site — sometimes a jungle of hormones and other times beautifully crafted lies, intricate masks, and a take-it-or-leave-it attitude.
That’s another thing Bollywood didn’t mention. A boy meets a girl, they get married against all odds since love conquers all, and they live happily ever after. How domestic. There was no talk about compatibility — whether physical, values, social, intellectual, or even lifestyle — by that, I mean being financially on the same page.
Are these new-age fads or are Bollywood love stories…
