5 Signs Someone Finds You Very Attractive (But Is Too Insecure To Admit It)
Reading the signs of attraction can sometimes feel like putting together a puzzle without a clear picture.
Oftentimes, someone finds you incredibly attractive but is unable to express those feelings due to insecurity. These signals can be subtle and hidden behind shyness or fear of rejection.
But spotting these clues can be easy if you know what to look for.
In this article, we’ll explore some of the obvious signs that someone finds you attractive, even if they’re too insecure to say it out loud.
Let’s get started!
1) Eye contact
As they say, eyes are the windows to the soul. If someone finds you attractive, his eyes will naturally turn to you. He may even find it hard to look away.
This is one of the most basic and primal signs of attraction. But if the person is not confident, it can manifest in interesting ways.
If they catch your eye or seem a little nervous, they may quickly look away. It’s because they’re afraid to reveal their feelings. These glances may only last a moment, but they’re worth noting.
If someone finds themselves caught in your eyes, it’s a clear sign of attraction, even if they’re too shy to admit it.
2) They’re nervous around you
This reminds me of high school. I remember this girl who always seemed a little nervous around me.
She would laugh a little too hard at my jokes, ramble on, and even spill her coffee once or twice.
At first, I thought she was just naturally nervous. But then I realized she was only like that around me. Every time we had a conversation, she was awkward and speechless, a stark contrast to the confident, calm person I saw in group settings. It took me a while to realize it, but I eventually realized that she was attracted to me.
Her nervousness was a reaction to her feelings for me, but she was too insecure to admit it openly. And now we’ve been together for three years.
So if someone seems unusually awkward or nervous around you, it might not just be because they’re nervous.
It could be a sign of latent attraction that they are too shy to express directly.
3) They mirror your actions
Mirror neurons in our brains are responsible for empathizing, learning, and understanding the behavior of others.
These neurons are also activated when we unconsciously mimic the behavior of a person - a phenomenon known as mirroring.
In the context of attraction, a person who is interested in you may unconsciously start to mirror your movements.
This can be something as simple as leaning forward when you lean forward, crossing your legs when you cross your legs, or recognizing your own speech patterns.
However, the person may be suffering from anxiety and not even realize it. Even if they can’t express their feelings, it’s their body’s natural way of connecting with you.
So the next time you’re having a conversation, pay attention to the other person’s body language; she might be telling you more than her words.
4) They show genuine concern for your well-being
If someone cares about you, your happiness and well-being is their concern.
This level of care and attention can be a strong sign of attraction. If someone is always there to listen when you’re upset, always checking in on you when you’re not feeling well, and going out of their way to make your day fun, these are all signs that they find you attractive.
But if insecurities arise, he may not express those feelings directly. Instead, he’ll show his affection through kind and caring actions.
They fear coming across as too pushy or being rejected, so they express their feelings in more subtle, yet meaningful ways.
5) They seem a little jealous
Jealousy can be a subtle sign of attraction, as long as it’s not excessive.
If someone finds you attractive, he may feel a twinge of jealousy when he sees you in close contact with another person.
He may ask about the people you spend time with or seem a little odd when you talk about your close friends.
These reactions usually stem from his desire to be with you and share a close bond with you. His insecurity may prevent him from expressing these feelings openly.
Instead, they may try to hide it under the guise of casual curiosity or concern. It’s important not to confuse concern with possessiveness, but a little healthy jealousy could be a sign that someone is attracted to you but is too shy to admit it.
