9 Ways To Become the New You by Being the Real You

The obvious but elusive way to have the life you want

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It’s one of those critical solutions in life that’s right in front of your nose.

You even know about it.

Yet, maybe you don’t embrace it or know what to do with it.

If so, you are not alone because this is one of the biggest misses we make as humans.

It’s what you need to change yourself, change your life or find a New Way Forward that’s perfect for you.

Here’s what it is.

To have something new that’s right for you, you must be the true you.

All too often we seek to change something in our life with the same thoughts and old or false beliefs that got us in this mess in the first place.

This means you will end up making a big change that doesn’t work for you, which then leads to making another change…and another…and another…and another…for the rest of your life.

There’s a better way and it makes so much sense.

Make the new you the true you.

You’ve got this because you’ve got the true you. You gotta let it out of the basement.

It seems so simple, yet I figure you’re wondering “How do I do that? How can I be sure am being the real me?”

Or “How do I discover the true me?”

Keep reading for answers.

Resign from the club

You are a part of a club with billions of members.

How can we not help but be someone we truly aren’t when we suffer the onslaught of expectations and pressure from others telling us how they think we should be?

All of our life all of the time.

Parents, society, friends, significant others, the establishment and marketing bombard us and brainwash us with standards based on their agendas, not the agenda created by the true you.

Following the agendas of others leads to being unhappy and miserable and you may not realize why you feel this way.

Here’s the why: You’re unhappy because the way you’re “being” is not true to who you really are.

It affects all levels and parts of your life

We always live up to our standards and our standards are based on our values.

This is an immutable fact.

But ask yourself, whose values? Whose standards?

Especially in childhood we fully accept the way our parents act and what they say to us even if they aren’t true about us.

Then the marketers, friends, society and the establishment dump their agendas on us.

We develop false beliefs from all that.

These beliefs drive our decisions and then our actions which leads to results and habits that aren’t aligned with our true selves.

These false beliefs become self-fulfilling.

This leads you to the life you have right now.

What it’s like to change to the real you

I was in an unhappy and dissatisfied place.

If you knew me in the life I had years ago you would have thought me crazy to want to change it.

But it didn’t feel true to me, therefore I wasn’t satisfied. It just wasn’t right for me in many ways.

At this time I was also looking toward my olderhood wondering what I was going to do with the potential of decades of healthy, active and relevant life ahead.

I started making the requisite lists of what I could do based on my experience, talent and skills.

Then it hit me.

That’s the very same approach that got me into this situation in the first place.

I had only thought about what I could do which of course matched the external expectations, values and standards of others I previously mentioned.

Boom! The right answer was right in front of me and I was ignoring it.

“What I ‘should’ do must be based on who I truly am and what I truly need and want in my life and who I want to be.

“I need to be true to myself”.

This was my launch moment. 5–4–3–2–1 LIFTOFF!!! to a new way forward in my life which turned into me launching New Way Forward to help people do the same thing.

With New Way Forward I share how to change your life (or a major part of it) to something that is perfectly aligned with and based on who you truly are.

Wow. What a concept (winking emoji of facetiousness).

If I can do it, anyone can do it.

I changed the way I looked at things and the things I looked at changed…for the better.

How to be true to the true you

Here are questions, thoughts and challenges to help you blast past the B.S. to set the true you free.

But first some very important tips.

You gotta journal as you go through this process.

Writing out your thoughts, ideas and realizations by hand helps your mind slow down, think deeper and the action of handwriting etches it all into your brain.

Plus, you will want to go back and reread, edit or add to some of what you wrote.

Journal for a few minutes first thing in the morning (before any screen time) and again before bedtime.

(C’mon, you can do a few minutes of this each day. The Return on Investment is huge).

Also, when you answer these questions, note how you feel. Physically and emotionally. Write those feelings down too. “Gut feelings” are accurate tell-tales of what’s really going in with your true self.

Oh…by the way, some of your answers will seem to be absurdly obvious. Write them down and add your feelings about them anyway.

Often, we miss or dismiss the obvious even though is a key truth.

1. What makes you feel good? What makes you feel bad? (This will be a long list and you will probably keep adding to it for days or weeks).
2. What are your values? What parts of life and living do you hold in the highest regard? What values do you believe cannot be violated?
3. What are your current standards that you are living up to?
4. Are those standards high enough to give you what you want or need? If not, then what are those new standards?
5. What do you think has been holding you back or will hold you back?
6. What beliefs do you have about yourself, life or the world that limits you? Think about where that belief first came from. Is it true for you now or ever?
7. What beliefs about yourself, life and the world do you really want to have? What beliefs feel right to you intellectually, emotionally and in your gut?
8. On the left side of a piece of paper make a vertical list of the old, untrue and true beliefs, values and standards. On the right what your new ones are (some will be the same as the left side). Note the comparisons.
9. Write a thank you note to your current self from your 95-year-old self.

A Thank You Letter From Your Future Self Can Save Your Current Self

Thanking your current true self for all you will now do

This is thinking from the end…big time.

Imagine how you want to feel about your life when you’re that age (or pick another, say 105).

When I did this, I thanked the current me for the healthy, active, relevant, purposeful, profitable and fulfilling years of life that I am passionate and proud of all because of what the current me did starting today.

I’m still living that life on the day I wrote the letter at age 95.

What you do want to be grateful, fulfilled, passionate and joyous about in the intervening years?

What kind of results, experiences, lifestyle situations and legacies do you want?

Then what will your 95-year-old self thank you for doing today and tomorrow to make that all happen?

Keep it very fundamental, (regrettably, stock tips aren’t possible).

I’ve written several of these. As I progress forward, new thoughts and desires avail and define themselves. I write them down in a new letter. It’s a very cool thing.

You’ve got this

There. You, see?

All of these insights, revelations and truths will have come from you…for you and only you.

You had the answer all the time. It was right in front of your nose, in your head and in your heart.

You will now connect with it, embrace it and use it.

You will thank yourself…every day…for the rest of your days.

Have a nice life.

Looking for a New Way Forward in your life? You can get my free “Launch Yourself Get Started Guide” by going to www.NewWayFWD.com.