A Letter To My Catfish

Yup. I got bloody catfished.

Lindo Shandu
ILLUMINATION
25 min readMay 24, 2023

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Getting back with Kat

This is part 2 of my breakup with Kat story. Bella Smith ⭐ and Hannah Noorheim, I think you guys most definitely want to read this one. It has a plot twist you are not ready for, and it’s not Kat being a catfish.

Just so you know, “Kat” is just a pseudo name.

If you did read the first breakup story, you would remember the part where I said that I would share the link to the story with Kat on Facebook. I did that and I specifically asked her to not reply to my text after reading the story, but she replied anyway.

There was one specific line from the story which she commented about.

What we had, me and you, felt real, but at the same time I knew it was too good to be true, but I went with the flow anyway because I had hope that it would go somewhere, but it didn’t.

She told me that the reason we had broken up was because I had doubts about us from the first place. We went back and forth playing the blame game at first, but then shortly after, I found myself self-reflecting based on what she had said about my doubts towards our relationship. I apologized and asked for her back. I couldn’t help it because I was still very much in love with her. I just could not let her go.

A couple of days later after having published my breakup story with her, we got back together and we started texting on WhatsApp again, and I was very happy again.

The letter I wrote to my catfish

Exactly a month after getting back with Kat, I discovered that she was using pictures and identity of a model from Portland Oregon who goes by the name Athena Katoanga the whole time we were dating. She faked her way into a relationship with me.

When I discovered this devastating truth, I did not confront Kat about it right away. Instead, I started researching more about Athena whose identity and pictures were being stolen by my catfish, Kat, while I was also subtly investigating her (Kat) in our WhatsApp chat. As you would guess, she did not stop lying to me about who she was, until a month and 2 days later after getting back together.

I attempted to videocall her on WhatsApp for the first time but she did not pick up, even though the videocall was her idea. She did not even bother to respond to my videocall by trying to call me back.

A few hours later, I finally sent her on WhatsApp the letter I had written for her which confronted her about all the lies I had discovered about her. I sent the letter in PDF format and entitled it READ THIS NOW, HOPE. This is the letter below.

DEAR HOPE

Babe, I should warn you that this is not going to be an easy letter to read just like it was not easy to write, but you must read it because these will probably be the last words I will ever say to you, but that’s gonna depend on you. The time for us to address the elephant in the room has finally come. The time has come for the truth to come out. I have realized that you have been playing hide and seek with me since the very first time we texted on Facebook. The truth is you have been lying about who you are since the very beginning of our relationship. I have known about this since 21 April 2023 and I gave you several chances to come clean and warned you a few times that dishonesty is one of my relationship deal-breakers, but you still shamelessly chose to lie to me. You still chose to pretend to be a verified model from Portland, Oregon who goes by the name Athena Katoanga and also happens to be in New York. We’re talking about someone popular here. This person has 204k+ followers on Instagram for crying out loud, she is easily googleable, and she has a YouTube channel with 10k+ subscribers which is why I don’t understand where you found the courage to steal the identity of someone of such high social status. Every information about her is readily accessible on the internet at the click of a button. So, how long did you think I was not going to find out that you have been pretending to be her all along? Well, I am done playing your games and I have finally reached my tolerance limit for your lies. All the lies, games and secrets end today, right now. This is where I draw the line. I am about to reveal to you how I discovered the truth.

On 21 April 2023, you told me to Google “Making A Model” which was “a modeling competition that you won”. Well, I did not Google it. I Googled the name “Athena Katoanga” instead which I thought was your real name at the time, but I was not prepared for what I was about to find out. The first thing I noticed when I Googled “you” was “your” date of birth. You told me that your birthday is 25 December 2001, but Athena’s real date of birth is 17 May 2003. At first, I believed that Google was mistaken about your birthday. I allowed myself to believe you instead of Google, but then Athena herself confirmed her own date of birth on her YouTube channel which is 17 May 2003. Did you seriously think that I would not come across her YouTube channel after you suggested that I Google “you”? By the way, Athena also happens to have a girly, feminine voice and you happen to have a masculine, deep voice. Remember that video of Athena you once posted on WhatsApp in which there was a voiceover in the background? That voice was Athena’s. You posted the video before you sent me your first voice note. Instead of asking you about the difference in your voice and the voice I heard in the video, I decided to believe what you said about your insecurity about your voice and told myself that someone else was hired to do a voiceover in that video. I believed your lies. However, your voice is the only thing about you I am 100% sure is not fake, but since you’ve lied to me over and over again, I do wonder if you have also been lying about your sex? I really want to believe you are a woman because I can’t even begin to imagine how disgusted I will feel if I were to find out that you are a guy who has been pretending to be a woman this whole time. Like I told you before, I have nothing against gay people, but I am totally against gay men who pretend to be women on social media to make straight guys fall in love with them. For your sake, I hope you are a biological woman, otherwise we are as good as done.

I also came across a website with Athena’s recent pictures that you last sent me. Those pictures were taken in New York, which, like I said, is Athena’s current location, not yours. This was the moment I suspected that you have been using Athena’s identity to catfish me this whole time, but I decided to stall because I needed more time to do my research to confirm my suspicion of your lies. I am not the type to jump into conclusions. So, I gathered more facts while pretending that I wasn’t suspecting anything. I literally played your hide and seek game with you and you were not even aware of it. You just got too comfortable with lying, not to mention you clearly underestimated me. I guess it’s true when they say two can play that game.

A week later after Googling “you”, I watched 90% of Athena Katoanga’s YouTube content and stalked her on Instagram for the purpose of finding out the truth that you have unapologetically and shamelessly been hiding from me this entire time. I found out that she has 6 siblings, but you told me you have 5. Her only name is Athena, not Hope. Athena’s accent and yours are totally different. In fact, you sound Black. Remember when I asked you if English was your home language and you said yes? I knew in that moment you were lying, but I chose to ignore it because I still believed at the time that you were Athena Katoanga. Her pronunciation of her own surname is also totally different from how you pronounce it. How can you steal someone’s identity and then pronounce their surname wrong?

Athena’s ethnicity is Full Tongan, White and some Native American, but you told me that you are Polish, White, and Ethiopian. Athena is from Portland Oregon, not Ethiopia or Poland where you also said you were from. You confused Poland with Portland with your lies. How can you be from 2 different countries in 2 different continents at once? Athena’s best friend’s name is Breanna Bunevacz, the one you told me is Mikayla from your WhatsApp profile pictures. That was a lie. Breanna lives in California by the way. Since your Athena Facebook account was fake, it would also make sense that “Breanna Bunevacz (Mikayla)” Facebook account is also fake. The real Breanna would not leave comments under a catfish’s Facebook account pretending to be her best friend, Athena. Also, Breanna does not have a second name or the nickname “Mikayla”. Just so you know, I did reach out to the real Breanna on Instagram to report the fake Facebook profile using her name and profile picture. Something tells me that you or someone you probably work with also created Mikayla’s fake Facebook account and you left comments in your fake “Hope Athena Katoanga” Facebook posts to make it look like you two were communicating with each other under the comments section. If this is what was really going on, then I’d like to tell you that this is both genius and really messed up.

Athena was 19 years of age the whole time I believed that you were her. You made me fall in love and have deepest and most intense sexual thoughts and desires for a 19-year-old like I’m some kind of a pervert! Athena graduated high school in January 2020 but you told me that you matriculated in 2017 from a high school in Poland. Did you know that Athena was homeschooled before she graduated high school? I bet you did not know this about her. She is a full-time model and she did her first photoshoot at the age of 12. She was never a medical student. So, the question is are you even a medical student or was that a lie too? For someone who claims to be a medical student, you have no honesty and integrity, but I will give you the benefit of the doubt and say you are a real medical student.

Athena’s little brother’s name is Chaz, not Chad. He’s definitely not from Ethiopia. So, that sob story you told me about regarding your “13-year-old brother Chad’s school in Ethiopia shutting down due to political issues” and wanting to move him to Cape Town for school was so convincing and believable that I did not hesitate to give you the R600 you asked for for “his passport”. You confused Athena’s brother’s name Chaz with Chad which makes me think that you probably made up the whole story about him in order to scam me. Is that what really went down? You probably don’t even have a brother called “Chad”. Another reason I’m suspecting that you scammed me is because after the R600 reflected into your account that “some guy from Capitec Bank opened for you using his ID”, you kept quiet about your “little brother’s” whereabouts until I kept on following up with you about it. Who knows how much more of my money you would have made me spend on you if I never put my foot down by telling you that I can’t spend money on someone I have not met yet? Something tells me that I was one of your scamming targets, but then you ended up catching feelings for me because of the way I showed you love. I know your love for me is not fake because if it was, you would have told me to piss off and block me the moment I told you that I wasn’t gonna spend any more money on you before we meet, but you never told me to piss off. You showed understanding to my demands and you stuck around because you had already fallen in love with me.

However, the truth is your intentions were not good from the beginning, otherwise you would have come clean about your real identity a long time ago. Just so you know, I would have happily spent some more of my money on you if you were just honest about everything with me from the get-go. I’m also aware that it’s easy for men to spend money on girls as gorgeous as Athena, and that’s probably why you created fake social media profiles using her pictures. I’m including WhatsApp in those fake social media profiles because you are still using Athena’s pictures as your profile pictures. Why are you not using your own? If you really love me, why are you hiding yourself from me?

Athena is a devoted Christian and the picture of the bible you once posted on WhatsApp, you stole it from her Instagram. In fact, all the pictures of Athena you sent me, you stole them from her Instagram. Do you even love God for real or were you faking that too? I’m not judging because I’m no angel as you already know, but there’s nothing godly or Christian about stealing someone’s identity and using it as your own on social media to make guys like me fall in love with you, not to mention stealing a picture of someone’s bible and posting it as your own on WhatsApp. If you must know, identity theft is a serious criminal offence!

Athena’s verified Instagram profile also confirmed her current location which is in New York. Remember when I asked you to send me a screenshot of your Instagram? I did not want to follow you there but I made it sound like I did. I just wanted to find out if Athena’s Instagram profile was really yours or not, and your screenshot confirmed that it wasn’t, which wasn’t a surprise. The screenshot revealed that you, whoever you are, are also one of Athena Katoanga’s 204k+ Instagram followers. The screenshot had “following” and “message” buttons. There was no “edit” button that appears in your own Instagram account. How can you follow your own Insta profile and message yourself? Did you really think I wouldn’t notice that you had screenshot someone else’s Instagram profile? How stupid do you think I am? See, when you sent me this screenshot, that was the moment I realized how much you underestimated me and insulted my intelligence. I have never felt so insulted in my life! From the screenshot, I could see that you also follow Diana Katoanga (Athena’s mother), Leila Katoanga (her twin sister), @mikayla.gilles (whoever this is), and Athena herself. I checked this Mikayla girl’s Insta profile and it’s safe to say that you have no relationship with this person. She was also part of “Making a Model with Yolanda”, and you have never been part of that. Do you even have a best friend called Mikayla? I’m asking because you lied about the way she looks. She’s not the girl from your WhatsApp profile pictures. That girl is Breanna Bunevacz from California, Athena’s best friend.

Remember the Black girl I asked you what her name was, the one “you” were with in “your” picture you sent me having pizza? You got all worked up and refused to tell me her name, but the truth is I already knew her name as I had already done my research. I just wanted to hear it from you but instead you gave me attitude instead of the truth. Her name is Lindsey Dasylveira. Bet you didn’t know that because you knew that she is not your friend but Athena’s. A couple of days later after we had this little disagreement about “your friend”, I found out that you deactivated your fake Facebook account. I’ll tell you why you ended up deactivating it. Just keep reading.

The screenshots of the Instagram messages from your “fans” you once posted on WhatsApp in one evening we argued, did you steal them from Athena as well? I know they aren’t yours because you are not Athena who has 204k+ followers on Instagram. Like I said, you are also part of the 204k+ followers, whoever you are. I also asked you if you would receive my message if I were to DM you on that account and you said you would. The truth is I asked you this question when I had already sent a DM to Athena informing her about someone using her identity and pictures on Facebook and WhatsApp to catfish me. If Athena’s Instagram was really yours, you would have seen my DM and confronted me about it, but you never did because Athena’s Instagram is not yours but hers. Tell me something. Are you obsessed with Athena Katoanga? If you weren’t obsessed with her, you wouldn’t have pretended to be her on social media.

Remember your fake Facebook story I first replied to when I first texted you? I’m talking about Athena’s picture that was taken at a beach. It was actually taken in Laguna Beach, California. The biggest irony here is that the very first DM I sent you was me teasing you about you not being a catfish, only to find out exactly 2 months down the line that you are indeed a catfish. I should have trusted my gut feeling but instead I fell for your lies and nonsense for 2 months. I thought I was very smart, but you have made me realize that I may not be as smart as I think I am. You have truly humbled me. I gotta give it to you. You played your cards really well, until the day you suggested that I Google “Making a Model”. That was one dumb mistake you made which revealed the truth to me. You clearly did not do extensive research on Athena Katoanga before you stole her identity which was not a very smart move if you ask me.

Remember whenever I asked for pictures of your hands and feet, and you kept on stalling? I wasn’t asking for them because I craved to see them. Like I told you before, I do not have a foot fetish. I asked for them because I wanted to find out if you are who you say you are, and the more you stalled whenever I asked for the pictures, the more my suspicion of you being a catfish grew. You knew exactly that you don’t look like Athena Katoanga and that was why you could not take and send me pictures of your hands and feet. Are you even as beautiful as you have repeatedly claimed to be or you were just saying that to keep me wrapped up around your little finger and give me false hope, Hope?

Remember before I even started asking you for pictures of your hands and feet, there was one picture of a girl’s feet you once sent me which I didn’t ask for. Were the feet even yours or was that a picture you stole from somewhere like you’ve been stealing Athena’s? That video snippet of the nice vagina that you once sent me on WhatsApp which I loved so much, was that even your real vagina or was it some other girl’s? I know for a fact that it’s not Athena’s because she’s never posted nudes online. If it’s not hers and it also happens that it’s not yours, then whose is it and why would you have a video of another girl’s vagina in your phone if you are a girl? Still, I don’t think there’s anything you can say to convince me that the vagina is yours. You’ve lied too much over the past 3 months and you’ve already lost my trust.

Do you also remember that time you also told me how insecure you are about your body, like everywhere you go people hype you up and tell you that you are beautiful, even though you were not comfortable in your own body? You even said that you are the most insecure among your friends and you can’t even wear a bra because you barely have boobs. You also said that during photoshoots you stand in front of a camera and look confident while deep down you were dying inside. That was all bullshit. You are not a model and you are not Athena. You just got creative at lying you made up a lie about an insecurity that you thought someone like Athena would have.

Here’s the juiciest of all your lies. Athena Katoanga’s real boyfriend’s name is Ethan Mizell and he’s Black. When you first texted me, Athena was already in a relationship with this guy and since you are not Athena, it makes sense that you lied when you said I was the first Black guy you dated. You’ve been pretending to be a girl that already has a boyfriend of her own. Did you seriously think I would not find out? You really took me for a fool and that was your biggest mistake. Well, guess what? I also reached out to this guy on Instagram and I informed him about someone using his girlfriend’s identity and pictures to catfish me, and he responded and told me that he would let her know. A couple of days later after I had this conversation with him, I found out that you had deactivated your fake Facebook account. This was clearly too good to be a coincidence, wasn’t it? Someone probably confronted you on Facebook about what you’ve been doing, weren’t you?

I think it’s safe to say you have now realized that you lied to the wrong guy. You underestimated me completely that you did not realize that I always pay attention to detail. I am also extremely inquisitive and I happen to be an Investigator by profession. My investigative instincts saved me from falling deeper into your shenanigans. The question is how many other guys have you taken advantage of through catfishing, or even worse, took their money? In fact, give me one good reason why I should not expose you right now!

You completely broke my trust in you and faith in our relationship. Our entire relationship has been nothing but a sham, considering you kept me in the dark about your real identity since day 1. You even made me feel so bad about having felt at some point that what we had was too good to be true, like I was the one who sabotaged our relationship with my doubts. You had the audacity to put the blame on me for our first breakup, but it turns out that I was right to be doubtful. Our relationship was indeed too good to be true.

You deceived and manipulated me from the beginning. You made me believe in true love after I had already lost faith in it. See, every time I opened my heart to someone, something had often gone wrong, but I was so stupidly in love with you that I ended up believing that things would be different with you. The ugly truth is that things turned out to be much worse than they were before because you are not even the girl you said you were. You are not Athena Katoanga. I have never thought that I would be catfished but here I am. The catfishing most definitely takes the cup out of all the things that have gone wrong as far as my love life is concerned. You made me fall in love with the lies, a fantasy, an illusion, a façade. I don’t even know how you look because you’ve never shown yourself to me, but you know exactly how I look. Hell, I don’t even know you but I allowed you to know me and the deepest parts of me I have never shown to anyone else before. I even sent you a couple of pictures of my family while you sent me pictures of Athena’s family. Where’s your family? I let you in and like I told you before, I rarely let anyone in. In return, you gave me nothing but lies, deception and false hope. You have really disappointed and betrayed me, Hope. You broke my heart.

You had every chance to come clean and I created space for you to be honest with me about anything, but my efforts were still not enough to touch your conscience. In fact, your actions have shown me that you have absolutely no conscience, no shame and no morals. You showed up in my life at my weakest point when I was still longing for mutual love, attraction and emotional intimacy. You definitely filled that void for the first two months of our relationship. In fact, you took advantage of my vulnerability. You made me feel the kind of love, lust, excitement and happiness I hadn’t felt in a while, but it all came down crushing on 21 April 2023 when I found out that I was being taken advantage of and catfished by you this whole time. This was also the time when I realized that I am still very much single because the girlfriend I thought I had does not exist. So, if you are not Athena, then who are you? You know, I have every reason to hate you for what you’ve done to me, but I can’t hate you. I just don’t trust you anymore and you have only yourself to blame for that.

I really loved, respected, and trusted you Hope Logen, or whoever you are. I even decided to overlook the redflags you clearly possess. I accepted everything about you that you told me you were, even your drinking. You made me believe I had a bright future with you, that one day we were gonna meet up, hook up, have sex, and start a family and a new life together, but you’ve destroyed the possibility of all that happening. All that persuasive talk about you desiring to have unprotected sex with me and wanting me to get you pregnant, was any of it real or was it all an act? Are you even a woman? You can’t blame me for doubting your sex because you fooled me and lied about your identity for 3 months.

I invested my feelings in you and gave you my whole heart and soul while you were playing hide and seek with me this entire time. I hope you had fun making a fool out of me while it lasted. Just so you know, I have never loved anyone as much as I loved you. I would have crossed mountains for you. In fact, I already did by putting myself in a position to come to Cape Town which is a place near you, even though you failed to meet me halfway for obvious reasons. Tell me. For how long were you gonna keep up with the lies if I hadn’t caught you? Lying comes so easy to you, doesn’t it? You have really disappointed me, betrayed my trust, took me for granted, gave me false hope, made a fool out of me, and toyed with my heart, feelings and emotions. Why? If you love me, then why did you play me the way you did?

Why did you catfish me from the first place? How do you expect me to trust you ever again after what you’ve done? What you have done is inexcusable, wrong, cruel, pathological, insulting and unforgivable. So, give me one good reason why I should continue dating you. My trust for you is already broken and there is no easy way of mending it. However, if you really want to earn my forgiveness and if you really love me like you often say you do and want to save our relationship, you will fight for us. You will prove your love and loyalty to me by coming clean about everything from the very beginning up until this moment, starting by telling me your real name and surname, where you really come from, your real ethnicity, your real age, and the reasons why you catfished me. You will also destroy the rest of your catfish social media accounts, send me real pictures of yourself and a 15-second video of you reintroducing yourself to me, and I want you to call me by my name in that video. You owe me all of this after what you have done and if you have any heart, conscience and morals, you will know this is the right thing to do. If you are not willing to do any of this in trying to mend what is already broken, then I will know for sure that what we had was indeed too good to be true and I will also know that I never meant anything to you. The most painful part, for you mostly, is that should you choose to not grab this one last chance I’m giving you right now to come clean about everything, you will lose me forever and I will not hesitate to cut off ties with you for good this time around, move on with my life and let you move on with yours. Trust me when I say it will be very easy for me to do that and it will hurt you more than it will hurt me, but I can assure you that you will still do just fine without me. Having said that, don’t expect me to do what I did the last time we broke up because I won’t repeat the same mistake. Once again, this is your last chance to come clean about everything before it’s too late. Take it or leave it. The choice is yours.

Just so you know, if I wanted, I could have just kept quiet, block you and disappear on you the second I found out you lied to me, but I didn’t because I’m not cruel like you and yet, I am also not a fool that you thought I was. I have a heart. So, I wrote this letter to give you one last chance that you don’t even deserve. Keep that in mind before you say or do anything and remember that there’s nothing else I will ever say to you on WhatsApp, unless you do the right thing for a change and come clean about everything and do every single thing I have asked you to do throughout this letter. Do exactly as I’ve told you and maybe, maybe I might consider forgiving you for what you’ve done. Don’t do as I’ve told you and I’m out of this relationship for good.

Most importantly, I hope you have learned your lesson and realized that lying and deceiving can easily destroy a good thing going on.

Lindo

Their reply to my letter

The following day after having received my letter, my catfish replied and wrote:

I’m really sorry about everything I didn’t mean to, I was going to tell you everything but I was scared. I knew if I reveal my true identify you would not want me.

I never meant to play with your feelings, you’re an amazing guy and any girl would be lucky to have you. Please find it in your heart to forgive me…all in all my love for you was never fake, at first I thought it was just gonna pass out. But as I got to talk to you feelings started developing.

I’m really sorry for everything.

After having sent me this response, I blocked this person both on WhatsApp and phone contact list and deleted both of their phone numbers. They decided not to honor my request of revealing their true identity and as I had promised, I said nothing else to them thereafter. This person was never going to answer my videocall or meet me in person.

This response also made me realise that I was right about everything I accused this person of. All they did was to apologize.

Who my catfish really is?

Now, if you’ve paid close attention to the letter I wrote and my catfish’s response to it, you will realize that I was right when I accused this person of being a gay guy pretending to be a woman on social media.

He still could not reveal his true identity to me because he felt that I would not want him if he did, and he was right. That is the only logical explanation I can come up with for him insisting on keeping his real identity to himself. Kat turned out to be a gay guy. Shocking, right?!

If it wasn’t for paying very close attention to his masculine, deep voice and his reply to my letter, there was no way I could have known that I was dating a man pretending to be a woman the entire time because the way he consistently presented himself was so feminine and submissive. You saw it in the letter. That’s the pathological liar I’ve been dealing with for the past 3 months.

There was one time when this guy suggested that we do phone sex. At that time I still believed he was a girl, but luckily I turned him down because I was not comfortable with phone sex. Imagine if I did have phone sex with him and then find out a couple of months later in our relationship that he’s a dude. As a straight man, I can’t even begin to imagine how I would have felt after finding out that I had jerked off to the voice of another man. I know I wouldn’t be at fault because I would have had no idea that he’s a dude, but I would still be embarrassed and nauseated. I have nothing against gay men. I’m just not attracted to them.

What I learned from this whole experience?

Look, I have no idea why something like this would happened to me or why I attracted a gay man hiding behind Athena’s pictures from the first place. However, I am very aware that I did not deserve what this person put me through. In fact, I know I was too good for this person and it does hurt that something like this would happen to someone like me who has done nothing but show true love and kindness.

However, I do believe that everything happens for a reason. What happened to me sucks, yes, but it had something to teach me.

For instance, I have learned that whenever my gut feeling and instincts speak to me, I should always listen. At the beginning of my fake relationship with someone who called himself Athena Katoanga, something told me that it was too good to be true.

There was no way that someone of Athena’s social status would make it so easy for a normal guy like me to date her. I’m not putting her on a pedestal by any means. I’m just being realistic. Girls like that often go for guys who are either on their level or above their level. I got my fake model girlfriend way too easily. I was actually hit on by this catfish, not the other way round.

I also learned that trust should not be handed to anyone just because you have caught feelings for them. I trusted this catfish way too easily and that is why I got manipulated, lied to, taken advantage of, disappointed, and betrayed.

I also discovered where I fall short when it comes to romantic relationships. I learned that I can be too trusting, I fall in love too quickly, take things too seriously, and tend to overthink everything. These are the things that have made me extremely vulnerable and end up getting hurt. So, thanks to my catfish for helping me realize my weaknesses when it comes to relationships. I am definitely working on correcting them.

If there’s one thing I’ll never apologize for, no matter how many time I may get my heart broken, is wearing my heart on my sleeves.

This catfishing experience has also made me realize that it’s best for me to date someone of my own age and intellect level or slightly above. I’m talking about someone emotionally mature and does not have time to play childish games. My catfish was definitely younger than me and I wasted 3 months playing games with this person. I am no longer at that age.

Lastly, I have learned that it’s best to not rely on social media or on any online dating platforms for finding love. The next time I find love, it will be in the traditional, old-school way which is meeting people in the real world.

In the meantime, I am taking a much-needed break from romantic relationships. As you can understand, I have wasted my time and energy for 3 months on a relationship that did not even exist. My mind, body, heart and spirit are exhausted. So, I need some time to regroup and sort myself out before I jump into the next, hopefully real, relationship.

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Lindo Shandu
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Top Writer in Psychology. Fraud Solutions Specialist by day, Writer by night.