A Self-Centered “You”
How one’s SELF-conscious being can be SELF-centered…
How do you Envision a “self-centered” person?
Perhaps, it is your Majesty, sitting on a throne made of pure gold and fine leather cushions. Laughing hysterically amidst the impoverished society he oversees.
Perhaps, it is a silhouette. A shadow that seems to be lurking around every little corner at a glance, looks tall and slender. A figure whose only other distinct feature is a mischievous smile. One look at the shadow and you know that…whoever it is, no good will come from them.
Perhaps, you see a father who hungers and thirsts for power. A man who has lost sight of love and his dearest family. Lost in time of “working” long hours every single day. Making work his number one priority and in a blink, see his children grow from a little toddler to a fully-grown adult.
The Undisclosed Persona
These are some of the common interpretations of a self-centered person. However, one character was not described there. An undisclosed persona that is rarely defined as “self-centered” but is supposedly part of the flock…
“What does he think of me?”
“Do I look ok?”
“I’m not [insert attribute] enough…”
A person who consistently dabbles with the thoughts of others. Wondering what others think of them. This usually surfaces as a person who thinks about one’s insecurities, constantly “beats around the bush” because of being shy, and who is unhappy.
Those who have low self-confidence constantly try to reassure themselves of what they can do. These thoughts become the main load in an individual’s brain (and less concerned as to who one is talking to).
Thus, a self-centered person does not only cater to a person that is concerned with their interests and wants. Being Self-centered can also extend to desires for recognition and thinking about what others think of oneself.
“So I’m self-centered?! How can that be when I try to please other people?”
Most are unaware of this type of personality among self-centered people. Trying to please others roots back to thinking about how others view oneself.
Switch from “Self-interest” to “Contribution of Others”
If you have read my last article, anyone can change who they are.
No matter what you are now.
From the book “Courage to be Disliked” here are its three ways of leaving your self-centered life:
#1: Self-acceptance
To refrain from thinking about your insecurities and mistakes accepting one’s self is required. This means taking in and seeing who you are (with flaws required).
One is not only made up of their strengths but also all their weaknesses. A person with self-acceptance acknowledges his/her flaws and continues the pursuit of a better life.
#2: Confidence in Others
What is the difference between TRUST & CONFIDENCE?
Trust is when you have something with set conditions. For example, I trust you to do…[a certain action].
Confidence is believing without any set conditions whatsoever when believing in others. (even without objectivity)
With unconditional confidence, one can build a deep relationship.
Deep relationships will allow one to feel accepted in society which will remove the stain of self-centeredness in you.
#3: Contribution to other Comrades
Aside from having confidence in society, one must also contribute to it. To feel accepted, one must have to contribute to feel “needed”.
Be weary as this may result in self-sacrifice or “being too nice to others”. A balance must be made between one’s personal goals and one’s contribution to the community (maybe your goal can be to help the people around you).
A self-centered person has only himself to think of. While a people-centered person only thinks of others. Pick a balance.
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