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9 Words That Calm Me When I Get Stressed
Surprise, surprise, it has to do with the present moment.
Life throws curveballs at us on a daily, sometimes hourly, basis. Sometimes life has little to do with it and it’s us throwing those curveballs at ourselves. Whichever it is, stress comes our way most every day (how about that for a song lyric?) in ways both big and small.
Squillions of books and articles have been written offering techniques and ideas aimed at relieving this stress. Most of us employ several different “weapons” to fight against stress, like working out, eating right, meditating, practicing mindfulness, consciously breathing and, if it gets bad enough, even taking medication.
Sometimes just saying certain words to ourselves can do the trick of nipping a stressful situation in the bud. Here’s a mindful sentence I say to myself in certain stressful moments:
“Allow this moment to be exactly as it is.”
That’s it. Most of the time, when I say that sentence I can feel the tension ooze out of my body and psyche.
Stress is caused by resistance
Why does this particular sentence/concept work for me? It’s because the source of so much stress is resistance to the moment we’re in.