Abusers are not all bad all the time.

And therein lies one of the challenges of being believed

Photo by Sander Sammy on Unsplash

People are rarely straight cut bad or good. Despite the identity politics that are so popular today in the US splitting people into sides, the world actually exists in a lot of gray space — and this includes personalities. When we talk about abusive relationships, this is often where a lot of the arguments…