All Your Life Has Prepared You For This Next Phase

Coping with life transitions

Esther George
Jan 11 · 4 min read
Photo by Rene Asmussen from Pexels

the last leaf detaches and falls off from the tree, you know it’s time to welcome another season, another phase, another cycle. It’s hard as you feel the cold gust of wind blows in your face, listening to the rustling of leaves being carried off further and further away.

Life is flowing onward without a warning, taking a piece of you with it every time. The people you love, the lessons you’ve learned, the experiences you treasure.

You hate to admit it, but there’s no denying. More often than not, the unpredictability of life forces you to accept the changes you aren’t prepared for. Circumstances push you into a corner. No one has warned or even taught you how to deal with life when the twists and turns of fate sweep you along. How do you cope with changes that you’re not ready to handle?

It’s terrifying, and it’s scary. Uncertainty paralyzes you, each nanosecond freighted with anxiety and ambiguity. You watch your dreams pass you by. It’s like trying to grasp water with your hands, but all too soon, it slips through your fingers. If only; if only you could go back in time, to feel again and to love again. To experience what it means once again to just ‘be’. You’d do anything to turn the dial backwards for a brief moment.

Life is best lived in acceptance

You’re the type who thrives when things around you are stable and clear. When comfort and familiarity assure who you are. You navigate through life like a pro, your mind and your body sharp, unperturbed, and adequate amidst strange and alien surroundings.

But life is best lived in acceptance when the reality is embraced without resistance. When changes are allowed to interrupt the flow without prior notice. When you’re willing to loosen the grip at a time, that’s required of you.

Though change is often painful, it’s better than being caught in the tangled web of powerlessness — striving, fighting, struggling to hold on, only to find it flashing before you like a passing scene captured in frames. And then it’s gone, leaving you on the crossroads between the past that no longer exists and the foggy future that’s yet to be.

Change brings opportunity, renewal, and transformation. It requires letting go of the part that you’ve defended and held back for so long. It requires a closure; a disowning of what you once thought was exclusively yours. It requires bravery to walk up to a strange and scary land and start building anew. It’s the willingness to adapt even when you don’t know what’s waiting for you on the other side.

No matter how much you protest, the change will turn its deaf ear, indifferent to your plights of vulnerability. It marches on emotionless, marking the end of an era, a term, or a chapter in your life. You’ve arrived at the end of something that once was and will no longer be. All that remains is a piece of memory now stored at the back of your mind somewhere. You’re forced to accept the new reality, flipping the world you knew in a heartbeat.

Every ending is the start of something new

As you venture down the unknown path of change, avoid resentment. Understand that change is happening all around you and will continue to be so without your consent.

Bid the past farewell and thank it for imparting you with the generosity of time to carve and create experiences that now become treasured collections of chronicles. It’s time to acknowledge and greet a new beginning beyond the horizon.

Endings do not have to be bad. Every ending is the start of something new. You can’t avoid change, no matter how cautious. It’s something that’s completely beyond your control.

But you can choose how you wish to process it, to reach out to it, and to find the positive in the changes that are taking place.

You can choose to accept that you’re shifting, that at every turn, it has the potential to affect your life for the better. That every phase of stress means breaking through to a higher level when you’re ready to once again find balance and to face the future unreservedly.

Though circumstances are not in your control, your emotions are. Persevere and exercise patience, recognizing that it’s by no means a peaceful journey. Yet your perspective, when harness, ignites your zeal for a newfound passion that helps you navigate the present and create your way forward.

Possibilities always exist amid uncertainty

Like it or not, you may find yourself in transition right now, some may be welcome, while others may be more challenging than you ever imagined. Or perhaps both. How you navigate your inner horizon determines how you show up in your outer world.

As days turn into weeks, and weeks into months, you’ll be ushered into an expedition of sorts. One that will enable you to rediscover the next stage of evolution, to what matters, what’s yours to embrace, and what is now ready to emerge.

Remember that possibilities always exist amid the most painful, unproductive uncertainty. For to you belongs the opportunity to exercise freedom, the key to finding a way, even if you may never completely understand what has happened.

If you’re navigating a life transition, perhaps now is a good time to take advantage of the fork in the road.

A new dawn awaits.

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Esther George

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Writer • Dreamer • Storyteller • I write about discovering and living your best life now.

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Esther George

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Writer • Dreamer • Storyteller • I write about discovering and living your best life now.

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