Ask These 12 Questions to Learn About a Person
See someone from all angles, not just the public ones
This isn’t your boring game of 20 questions.
These are powerful, carefully selected, and field-tested questions that are guaranteed to help you gain insight.
Ask these to someone you want to know intimately — whether that’s your partner of 10 years or a month.
Getting Interesting Answers
Before we get into these questions, let me give you a quick tip, okay?
Sometimes people answer short by nature or because they’re not sure how much to elaborate. As someone who was a journalism major, I used to try to find “micro questions” to get people to expand. Wrong.
These three phrases will turn those quick responses into well-thought-out answers:
- “Tell me more”
- “Say more about that”
- *Silence* (people get uncomfortable and tend to fill the space)
We’re about to get deep and a little in the feels. This could bring up some negative emotions. If anyone is uncomfortable with a question, it’s their right to reject answering, so avoid prying.
