Be Likable: Simple Tips to Win People Over
Everyone wants to be liked, that’s a no-brainer.
However, not everyone knows the art of making people like them.
Being likable makes things easier for us in many aspects.
If your boss likes you, they will probably go easy on you. When it comes to job interviews, likable candidates often have a higher chance of being hired.
Likable people also have a great number of friends and eventually a better support system.
You might have also noticed that when someone likes you, they offer you more attention and valuable advice.
So, who wouldn’t want to be likable?
Fortunately, being likable is largely within your control.
Even if you don’t possess natural charisma, there are specific actions you can take to make people gravitate towards your personality.
Here are some tips to get people to like you:
1. Be authentic
Let’s be real here, nobody likes someone who isn’t genuine. We all value trust and authenticity.
Making a real connection with someone starts with being your true self.
Pretending to be someone you are not might not be a good start to making a genuine connection with someone.
Identify your core values and set clear boundaries, so if you find yourself not being authentic during a conversation, acknowledge it and return to being your genuine self.
2. Self-openness
Share your likes and dislikes openly.
Be honest and make transparency a habit. People are most likely to catch on if you are bullshitting, so it’s really not worth it.
Remember, you want people to trust you, and that can only be achieved if you are transparent with them.
By knowing your vulnerabilities, people are most likely to relate to you.
It will make you approachable and encourage them to express their own emotions without the fear of being judged.
3. Be an active listener
Don’t just listen to respond, but show genuine curiosity in the conversation.
“To be interesting, be interested.”— Dale Carnegie
Most of the time, we keep on blabbering about ourselves and wonder why the conversation is leading nowhere.
The reason is that we fail to focus on what the other person is saying; we’re merely waiting to respond.
Show interest in their passions and be genuinely curious. This will encourage them to open up more and consequently develop likeness for you.
4. Avoid ‘woe is me’ behavior
Nobody is fond of someone who is always complaining and bringing the room down.
People feel uneasy when they are constantly required to provide reassurance.
If you incessantly whine, people are likely to distance themselves from you.
So maintain a positive outlook because engaging with someone positive makes conversation easy and enjoyable, attracting people towards you.
5. Use humor
Humor always helps since everyone likes a good laugh.
Being funny creates a comfortable atmosphere because people know that being in your presence means engaging in lighthearted and enjoyable conversations.
So laugh along when someone else makes a joke and genuinely have fun with people.
That’s all folks.
By following these steps, you will definitely come across as a genuinely kind and funny individual, leading to people liking you.
Being a nice person is a choice, and people can tell if you are one or not.
So go ahead, apply these principles, and make new friends and acquaintances.
Best of luck!
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