Becoming Attractive Changes a Few Things in Your Life
Yes, that potato on the left is what I used to look like.
Let’s see if any of the following sounds familiar to you.
Don't judge a man by his looks, judge him by what’s in his heart.
Looks don’t matter, true beauty comes from the inside.
Don’t judge by appearance, there is more to one than what you can see.
Don’t judge by appearance, a rich heart may be under a poor coat.
Yeah, whatever the fuck that means. If you are still convinced that physical attributes ad looks don’t matter at all, you're either too damn good-looking who doesn't understand the struggles of an ugly person, or maybe you're too ugly and not ready to admit that your life sucks.
I went from what you see on the left side of the picture to what you see on the right, in about a year and a half — and let me tell you, life is FUCKING AWESOME now. I’m not saying that I have become the sexiest guy on the planet (maybe in the future, who knows.) I just want to tell you my story of how I went from looking like a potato to somewhat of those sexy guys that you see on TikTok (I’m still not there, but I’m working) and how it changed my life.
Looks Matter (like, a lot.)
I realized this very quickly and I'm glad I did — You’d be lying to yourself if you believe otherwise.
Most of these over-positive beliefs
like looks don’t matter mostly comes from those “positive, uplifting” quotes — and let me tell you, most of those quotes have nothing to do with what happens in reality. These over-positive beliefs can be helpful to give you a quick, little boost of self-confidence but the problem is that they’re not realistic and that they’re short-term.
The world’s a bitch and people can be stupid and shortsighted assholes who will judge you subconsciously based on your looks — the quicker that you accept this fact, the better.
Lets dive into how becoming more attractive has changed my life, how it can do the same for you, and how you can do it too.
Life is Easier for Attractive People
This has been the biggest change I’ve noticed throughout my transformation, going from fat and ugly to fit and attractive — life is so much easier for an attractive person.
Being the fat and ugly potato-face that I was in 2019, I would notice that people treated me like a nobody; my opinions didn't have any influence, my ideas didn't matter, no one wanted to help me eagerly out of their own interest, everyone had “something important to do” when I’d ask them for a favor. I’d be lying to you if I told you this didn't affect my confidence or my self-esteem and I’d also be lying if I told you that I didn’t give a fuck.
Looking back now, I can tell you that once you become attractive, the people who always had “something important to do” will be available for you, they’ll be “more than happy to help”, they will not be ashamed of calling you a friend or “someone they know closely”, they’ll sometimes even flex on knowing or hanging out with someone like you.
“I Don’t Care About People”
Oh boy, don’t even get me started.
First of all, you do care (at some level.) If you’re still really convinced that you don’t give a fuck about how people treat you, try imagining how the rest of your life would look like if you were treated like a nobody, whose ideas and opinions were ignored, if you were someone who has little to no influence (in the office, with his kids or in the world.)
I can’t disagree with you if you’re saying that becoming attractive just to make people treat you differently is neediness and I’ll also admit that being needy is not a good thing — but if you look at it with a wider lens, you’ll hopefully understand that trying to gain a bit of influence or attention to be treated like a human being (if not like a celebrity) is not a very bad or evil thing.
Striving for attractiveness to have an easier life is better than doing nothing about it and feeling worthless, unwanted or unheard.
But remember, if one’s mind is only occupied by “I have to become more attractive so that people lick my footsteps and stare at me and treat me like a celebrity” then we have a problem — because if a person’s only purpose in life is to become more attractive just so he can fuel his own ego, he will inevitably fall into the trap of neediness.
All his actions will be centered around how many people he’s impressing, he will feel worthless when his new post doesn’t get as many likes as the last one, he’ll constantly be seeking validation to make sure everyone likes him.
And this, obviously is a problem.
Godlike Confidence
Having been through nasty insecurities because of being overweight, I can tell you that with my new body, my self-esteem is through the roof — I no longer feel guilty for hurting people’s eyes when they look at me, people notice my presence and don’t treat me like shit anymore. To my surprise, my own family treats me like a figure of authority in the home because I believe they can almost sense my new confidence.
I still remember that I never felt comfortable at wedding parties because I was constantly thinking of what my relatives were saying about my weight and appearance. Every time I’d see a shiny surface, I’d look at myself to suck my cheeks in, adjust my hair, and vac my stomach in so that it didn’t appear as big. All this constant struggle would make me feel terrible about myself.
It wasn’t until I started hitting the gym hard that I not only lost all that weight, but it also led to everyone admiring my presence. Initially, I knew that most of my confidence was fueled by all the genuine compliments I was getting about my physique. Then I realized that it was not just the number of compliments; My perception of myself had changed.
A person with low self-esteem gives more weight to random people’s opinions than his own. This shows his lack of confidence in himself and his decisions.
When I started taking care of my body by tweaking my diet, designing personal workouts, grooming myself regularly, I noticed that I actually started respecting myself.
This was a game-changer for me; it wasn’t only other people were perceiving me differently, I myself had started to look at myself differently.
None of this would have been possible if I didn't try becoming the best version of myself (and attractive to other people in the process) by working on my body and my appearance.
Last Few Words
I hope that I have convinced you that looks do matter — and that it’s not a bad thing if you try to become more attractive in order to have more influence, to boost your self-confidence and have a better life in general.
Love. Amir.
