As an avid reader of quotes the most raw ones I have come across are statements made by Brene Brown. Her insight and studies into vulnerability are rich sources of heartfelt honesty. Our very basic human needs are explicitly unraveled in a tapestry of soul searching words by Brene which encourage a depth of reflection on life that cannot be denied.
One of my favorite quotes by Brene Brown is as follows “We need more people who are willing to demonstrate what it looks like to risk and endure failure, disappointment, and regret. People willing to feel their own hurt instead of working it out on other people. People willing to own their stories, live their values, and keep showing up.”
Just to break this powerful quote down a little, I would like you to consider how willing you are to take risks in life that may end in failure? Are you risk averse? Staying in your comfort zone not taking any chances in life and therefore stagnating? Or do you have the courage and heart to live and evolve through taking some risks? If fear stops you from living, changing or making decisions then your challenge is to walk through that fear fully aware that it could result in pain or pleasure. There are no guarantees in life. Only the promise of hope, and the faith you have in yourself- plus the effort and willpower you apply to any given situation that can shape the outcome.
How do you manage disappointment and do you live with regret? These are fundamentally human issues that can weigh heavily on hearts but offer the opportunity to be real, seen and heard if we but have the courage to share our stories. In sharing can hearts know that they are not alone. Not a single person walks this earth except that they have some from of regret or sorrow in the depth of their souls. Could this very fact allow us all to show more compassion to each other? To encourage us to work through our troubles like warriors without harming each other? To own our stories and grow from lessons learned, to continue living and developing despite the pain? Life is full of twists and turns, curve balls and unexpected things, does that then mean we give up, hide or pretend that everything is okay? Too often we ignore our feelings and bury them or hide away, but they always catch up with us…..
The most authentic people I have ever met are painfully honest, transparent and brave. They do not impose their pain on others but it is evident in them. They do not expect the world to owe them anything, yet they share their love and wisdom in gentle conversations. Instead of hiding away they keep showing up, day after day, being the best possible version of themselves that they can be and hoping for the best. Their super power is in knowing that there is no such thing as a perfect life, or a perfect person, they just live from one day to the next being themselves.
I would like to offer you something more to ponder on. We all have some level of emotional baggage, much of this is dependent on our past and what has happened to us growing up. The following quote by Hanna Brencher sums up my conclusion:
“We all have a bag. We all pack differently. Some of us are traveling light. Some of us are secret hoarders who’ve never parted with a memory in our lives. I think we are all called to figure out how to carry our bag to the best of our ability, how to unpack it, and how to face the mess. I think part of growing up is learning how to sit down on the floor with all your things and figuring out what to take with you and what to leave behind.”
Reflect on what you need to leave behind, what burdens you no longer need to drag behind you in pain and suffering. Work out how to move forwards and be free of those things that hold you back. Honor the memory of things you want to take forwards and that act as a healing for your heart. Only you truly know whats best for you. Act in your own best interests and leave behind toxic harmful baggage that no longer serves a purpose. Be free, be kind and live true to your values.