Do Narcissists Understand Why You Choose to Be No Contact?
Why can’t they just let go and move on?
Does a narcissist understand what no contact is? Maybe.
Does a narcissist think you would go no contact with them? Not likely.
Does a narcissist think anyone would find their behavior warranted it? No.
Let’s look at this from the narcissist’s point of view.
Your choice to stop all contact with them means one of two things.
- You’re playing hard to get and want them to chase you.
- Something is wrong with you.
That’s if they notice.
No contact with an overt narcissist
If an overt narcissist discarded you and moved on to someone else, they’re not even thinking about you.
They’re busy idealizing the person they left you for or the secondary or tertiary supply they upgraded when you left.
While they are idealizing someone else, they see that person as “all good.” You, being the former partner (and former for a reason), are “all bad.”
Over time, once the narcissist’s idealization of their new source of supply wears off, they start to flip-flop in the way they see…
