Do You Dare To Stand Out?

Jon & Caroline Cole | Ink-Stained Hearts
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6 min readJul 21, 2023

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Or are you obsessed with being part of the herd?

Why Are You Afraid To Stand Out? Why are we obsessed with being part of the herd?
Photo by Emanuela Picone on Unsplash

‘Don’t wear bright colours,’ my aunt said to her husband.

I was in my teens and wondered about that statement. Later I found out the reason and was stunned. Let me explain.

My father’s brother, like his parents and siblings, was of Dutch nationality but born in Indonesia — then the Dutch Indies. History buffs will know the Dutch share a not-so-nice colonial past with the English, with ancestors and descendants being olive skinned.

It caused many ‘misunderstandings’ during my life, especially where my sister and I had/have dark hair and olive skin whereas our brother was blond, typical Dutch, you can say.

I remember in high school, my classmates enquiring after that nice blond guy, and not believing me when I said he was my brother, not my boyfriend.

Back to the words of my aunt, the Dutch lady who was happily married to my uncle:

‘Don’t wear bright colours, because of the colour of your skin.’

She was afraid he’d ‘stand out’ if he wore coloured shirts instead of his standard light to medium blue.

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Jon & Caroline Cole | Ink-Stained Hearts
ILLUMINATION

Writers | Vloggers Passionate about words, music, sports, and discovering places. Lovers of books, vinyl, and geeky stuff. Curious about life.