Ego Is *not* the Enemy

The obstacle is surely the way.

Shajedul Karim
Mar 17 · 4 min read
Image Credit: Thanks Vidar Nordli-Mathisen (Unsplash)

Ryan will kill me after this.

I might go for plastic surgery after this post and might be inactive on Medium for a while. (Trust me, I’m lying).

I always believed ego drives success but wasn’t sure how. Ryan got me an answer to that with his book fat.

Ego is the obstacle. The obstacle is the way. Trust me, I’m not lying.

I’m the most egoistic in the world. I’m not lying.

When my 10th-grade classmates were playing PUBG, I was replying to Play Store reviews for an app by a company I joined without knowing anything.

I kept doing it long enough and I became the most egotistical.

Ego is realizing your self-worth. Realizing your self-worth means filtering out outside opinions that make you feel bad about your birth.

Ego saves your precious time.

People always come to me for a short time. I don’t always fall into the trap.

People want your time more than your money. They’ll either make money off your time or they’ll save their time by wasting yours. Ego helps you realize that and not fall into the trap.

You don’t have to decide which toothpaste your girlfriend’s mom should buy for her cat.

Your ego doesn’t let you waste time. Ego cares about you more than anybody else’s unnecessary demand.

Ego helps you dream, at least.

If you believe in yourself only then you can dream. Ego is the faith in yourself.

I always felt I can do more and be more. But I never dreamt of being or doing more. Ego drove me to dream. Dreaming means having a purpose. The ego is a powerful force.

Ego increases your grit.

Some make fun of me and my writing. I don’t care. Thank you, ego.

My humble nature tells me to give up. My ego tells me to persist and surprise them later close up.

Ego tells you you can because you can.

Ego hints you are capable because you were in the past. Ego comes from previous successes. You can’t be a failure and be egotistical.

Ego drives you in a purpose.

Here’s what’s missed: Egotistical people are purpose-driven people. You can’t be on a mission and be egoless and self-giving.

Ego is self-love. Self-love is doing what you love.

Ego gives you the courage to face any challenge.

I’m here because of my ego. I’m writing this post because of my ego. I test things without fear on people I love because of ego. I act dumb and crazy because of my ego.

Ego helps you figure out the truth by testing something you were otherwise afraid of. Ego makes experimenting and challenges fun.

Ego Is the Energy

The ego acts as motivation and energy.

We sure might be fulfilled by the lessons learned on the way to success, but we first have to know what success is. Ego helps you realize that.

I imitate writer Tim Denning as if nobody’s watching. People think I’m crazy: I highlight almost every line of his article. I don’t care.

They say you only highlight things that resonate with you but everything he writes resonates with me because I want to write like him. He’s my start. People miss that point.

Ego gets you closer towards success. Ego is the necessity for growth.

Here’s how you develop ego:

Ego simply means confidence. You get confidence with success. The ego is the build-up of successes. Have multiple small wins and you’re on ego.

Here are some things I try when my humble nature conquers me:

  1. Before getting into your main (creative) work, finish the grocery. Or laundry. And dishes. And answer the emails. And clean the PC. Make the bed? Do it.
  2. Start doing the main work you have to do. The first step is always hard so conquering it is already a win. Then do it for 20 minutes.
  3. Study other’s work and find an invisible hole you can fill. Others always know more than you. Finding the hole is a win. I’m doing it with Ryan’s book.

The Only Thing You Need With Ego

Self-awareness.

Ego + Self-awareness = Boom

You have self-awareness when you know you want to grow. Self-awareness is just the internal realization or dire urge to grow. Desire to grow balances everything bad ego can do for you.

Ego is the energy when wrapped up with self-awareness (self-awareness = the dire urge to learn and grow).

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My story might not matter but it'll gently touch your interior and remind you how smarter you are. Google forced to include numbers: shajedul.karim.01@gmail.com

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My story might not matter but it'll gently touch your interior and remind you how smarter you are. Google forced to include numbers: shajedul.karim.01@gmail.com

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We curate and disseminate outstanding articles from diverse domains and disciplines to create fusion and synergy.

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