Embracing Grief as a Transformative Force
Discover meaning, healing, and inspiration in the midst of loss
This morning I saw a photo of Sandra Bullock smiling during a walk in Los Angeles. To the editors at People, this was noteworthy because Bullock had lost her longtime partner to ALS a few months ago. I’m sure Bullock rolled her eyes as she saw the headline. As if she’s not supposed to smile despite her profound loss.
When we suffer loss, it’s natural to grieve. It’s natural to feel anger, regret, and denial. But that’s not to say there are moments of joy despite our grief. These moments of joy can bring an unexpected smile to your face, which the paparazzi captured from Bullock.
My iPhone still pulls up “memories” from years ago when my beloved Colburn was still alive. I see a video of him struggling, barely moving, and my mind quickly recalls what a fighter he was. Despite his horrible heart condition that would claim his life, he still found enough spirit to play with Kona.
Then my heart floods with love as I see videos of him a little younger, before he got sick. I took Colburn everywhere with me. He went along with whatever stupid venture I decided because he knew at least he could be with me. That’s love.
