From a Sister Leaving College to a Sister Entering
There is so much to say about the new journey that you are about to go on. It’s going to be long, hard, and tiring but it will change you for the better if you let it. You have the chance to make heartbreakingly beautiful friendships and work towards being the you that you have always wanted to be.
When you first come in you might not know anyone just like I did. It might be lonely but let yourself feel alone. Let yourself understand that you are the best support system that you can ever have because no one understands you the way that you do. No one knows exactly what you need as you do. There is a special kind of confidence that comes with appreciating how strong you are and that you don’t need a single other person to take care of you. But, this does not mean that you shouldn’t let other people in. There will be so many people around you and some of them will become a blessing throughout your time at college and maybe even the rest of your life. Be careful who you let in but give everyone a chance, you might be surprised by who becomes your new best friend.
Before you walk onto your new stomping grounds I’m asking you to do one thing that saved me from complacency. Take the time to research the school and reach out to student leaders and professors that you find interesting and ask them for advice. Figure out where you think you would prosper and which opportunities you want to seize. Once you had a few days to think about this, make a list of things you want to achieve. My list was to serve on Top 4 for ACM, intern at three different companies, be in a business frat, and graduate in three years. To me, these goals were very ambitious but they kept me grounded even when I felt like nothing I was doing was working. They kept me focused regardless of how messy my life was getting, and I ended up accomplishing everything except for pledging a business frat!
Next, I want to talk about boys. Boys can take up as much time as you let them. You can consume your entire time in college chasing them or entertaining them but all of those games mean nothing. Remember that the good ones stay and make your life less complicated, not more. Meet as many people as you can and if you meet someone special, enjoy it. But, always keep in mind that this period of time is meant for you to find yourself, not to find someone else.
Finally, don’t forget where you came from. You will be so busy that each day will feel like it was an hour-long but find those hidden minutes that you have to spare to call mommy, daddy, and me. We will be your saving grace when you need us the most. I can promise you that.
I am so excited to see where you are going and how much you will achieve. Your perseverance inspires me every day, and you have no idea how much even the thought of you pushes me to work harder. I cannot wait for the world to see how special you are.
Love you always.
