Have you heard of ‘Unintentional Kindness’?
It’s a blessing for real.
We live in a chaotic world. Everyone lives a busy yet ordinary life. There are some who struggle with their insecurities while others struggle with their health. And there are some who have a hard time with their kids while others can’t stand their loneliness. It’s either relationships, jobs, wealth, health, or what not. Commonality is the battle. A battle with the self or others. Amidst this one may forget where they came from or who they are. Life becomes a maze and hard to hold onto.
Even in situations like these, I appreciate the truthful ones. It becomes unbearable when someone states the truth to my face. Mentally I bang the person’s head on the wall but deep down I calm down. Genuine people ignite my hopes. A feeling that they’ll be my constant during my ups and downs relieves me. This was not how I thought from a young age but as I grew up this became my mindset. They say experiences mould a person and I believe that is the reason for my change.
A person has a character and a personality. Character is who they are, and personality is who they become. When someone tries to understand this concept, the person understands his or her own self. But even if one knows himself it doesn’t mean that he is always conscious of his state. There are many layers to oneself, and each day one can uncover each layer. Some may be modest, and others may be outspoken. Some may feel uncomfortable around people while others love being in company. It need not always be this or that, at times it may be a combination of both. There is also the other side to this such as anger issues, lying, being mean, etc. The thing is all the above are noticed when one observes. When a person wishes to change or rebuild oneself, one observes these traits.
What’s fascinating is some traits are natural to a being. We all have things that come naturally to us. We don’t need to put effort into those qualities. These are innate qualities. A small gesture does have a lasting impact on people. The sight of a man’s apology when he stumbles upon an old lady as he rushes through the street to his office is heartwarming. A student’s loud thank you while she dashes to the exam hall after she takes the hall ticket leaves the one with a pleasant smile. Wholesome is a child’s hurried kiss to her mom when she gets permission to play. Also, the unexpected glass of water from your sibling at the end of the day is comforting as you thought she cared less about your morning plea. And then you smile when you see the appreciative grin of your friend when you do his last-minute homework. Peaceful is the pleased smile of your mother when you buy her, her favourite cutlery. These seem like mundane things, but they surely have substance. These are feelings that they’ll never forget as it is often the small gestures that are major parts of our long-lasting memories.
These are things people don’t do out of necessity or as part of their habit, rather these come out unintentionally. These acts of kindness are done with a pure heart. A heart with no expectations. A heart that spreads kindness even when it is troubled. The truth is some are kind people while others are kind at heart. Blessed are the ones who spread unintentional kindness.
