How a Toxic Relationship Can Change Your Life for the Better

Your life begins when the relationship ends but you’ll have to be ready for it

Alex Ghaznawi
ILLUMINATION
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9 min readMar 3, 2021

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I still remember to this day when my ex and I broke up after being together for a little over three years. I was 23 at the time, and when it happened, I was left devastated.

We were together for three years, and in the end, I had lost a big part of myself, and in my mind, my thoughts seemed to focus on the mentality that “without her, I’m nothing.”

I had been manipulated, controlled, and emotionally drained to the point where, at that time, I couldn’t see the relationship for what it was — toxic!

“You have to learn to get up from the table when love is no longer being served.” — Nina Simone

If you’ve ever gone through something similar, you’re not alone. Over 10 million Americans are subjected to psychological and physical abuse from the people they love.

A study that surveyed 571 Americans about their experiences in a toxic relationship showed that 57% felt fearful or uncomfortable in their current relationship while 87% felt the same in a past relationship.

Photo taken from Mentalhelp.net

My situation was no better. I was constantly fearful and walking on eggshells because a fight would break out if I said or did the wrong thing. My ex would not be happy until I apologized without ever apologizing for anything in return.

However, the end of that relationship signaled a turning point in my life. The world didn’t end, and the sun came up the next day.

Having to repair the damage she caused wasn’t easy, but through the process, I became a much better version of myself, and my life started to improve in more ways than one.

“Sometimes the door closes on a relationship, not because we failed but because something bigger than us says this no longer fits our life. So, lock the door, shed a tear, turn around and look for the new door that’s opened. It’s a sign that you’re no…

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Alex Ghaznawi
ILLUMINATION

Attempting to solve the who, what, when, how of the universe. Contact: alexghaznawi@gmail.com