How do you create a life of meaning?
Rather than what is the meaning of life? How do you create a life of meaning?
What does that even mean? Is my idea of meaning better, different, or more relevant than yours?
Do you have to find meaning?
Does a meaningful life have a scorecard that has to be ticked:
- child or children
- homeowner
- income level
- marriage
- job title
- no job
- no home
- travel
- money in the bank
- car/s in the driveway
Are we all hungry for meaning, or are some of us content with where we are and what we have?
For me
I grew up in a very poor household. Poor financially but also poor emotionally.
As an adult, I had to decide to do things differently to live a different life than I had experienced as a child.
This meant:
- ensuring I was never going to make the same choices
- choosing to work hard to earn enough money to pay my bills and have nice things
- reminding myself that things don’t buy happiness
- being grateful for a wonderful husband and daughter
- choosing to parent differently from how I was parented
- not being distracted by the ‘perfect lives’ of others
- deciding what a meaningful life means for me.
It is about being content with wherever you are. So you are not looking for something more; you are not running away from something else and are not looking to escape or self-medicate.
Wherever you go, there you are by Jon Kabat-Zinn is a good book for anyone who is constantly running.
For you
It is a well-worn line, but gratitude can help you have a meaningful life.
This means:
- take the time each evening to think about what went well for you today
- ask your children what went well for them each day
- do something for someone else with an expectation of something in return
- volunteer your time with others who are less fortunate
- don’t worry about ticking boxes
- don’t be distracted by thinking everyone else has a more perfect life than you
- be unashamedly yourself at all times
- realize it is not what others think; it is what you think and feel about yourself
- work on feeling content within yourself
- Knowing where you are right now is exactly where you are supposed to be so you can decide what a meaningful life is.
So what is meaningful in your life?
Have you created a life of meaning?
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