How Freaking Long Will a Narcissist Really Ignore You?

When hours or days feel like forever

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You are in the midst of the silent treatment.

The narcissist in your life is ignoring you.

You’ve been through it before.

Or maybe it’s the first time.

In either case, it feels like forever.

You wish you knew what they were thinking.

• Will they talk to me again or is this it?
• How long will this last?
• Is there something I can do?

The pain of this question is equally matched by the pain of the answer

A narcissist will ignore you for as long as it serves them.

There are a few things you need to understand.

• A narcissist is driven, consciously or subconsciously, by the need for narcissistic supply.
• They gain narcissistic supply in two ways. 1) admiration, respect, validation, attention or 2) devaluing others
• The narcissist is inherently lazy and will seek maximal supply for minimal effort.
• Their behavior is chosen to serve them only.