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How Getting Into Frequent Arguments With My Girlfriend Made Me Emotionally Intelligent
The story of how I fixed my relationship and how you can too
Before I got into a relationship with my girlfriend, I knew nothing about emotional intelligence. That’s because I had never faced a situation that tested my ability to handle my emotions.
After a few years of being in a relationship, things have changed for me — emotionally.
Couples have misunderstandings, arguments, and fights all the time. Some clashes are so fierce that they must break up, while others are minor — like everybody has with their partners.
I began constantly getting into arguments with my girlfriend. They were so frequent that I started doubting myself — what the hell am I doing wrong here?
I always try to give everything for her happiness because that’s what matters most to me. I am a big problem-solver and thought that was all that mattered. I was so wrong. Especially after reading Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps by Allan and Barbara Pease, I have understood that solving a problem for a woman isn’t what a man should be doing.
Our constant arguments sometimes led to huge fights, and she always got upset with me. I would react every time she…
