How Living in the Now Moment Brings You Well-Being, and More Loving Relationships Into Your Life
Want more love and well-being in your life? Live in the Now
Why? Because in the now moment, there is no past or future, only now. This means that when you exist in the now, all those things in your memory that cause you to pain no longer have a grip on you. When your awareness is focused on the present moment, unresolved painful emotional memories cannot put you into depression. Without negativity hanging over your head, you are more lovable and loving.
Living in the Now Brings Well-Being
Memory Is Both A Blessing And A Curse
Memory is necessary to live life. You need to remember where you live, where you left your car keys, or if you are a doctor, how to diagnose a disease. Remembering how to count helps you stop getting short-changed.
However, when the mind constantly digs up things from your memory banks that end up causing pain and dysfunction, memory can get in the way of a happy life. When your mind brings up memories of past emotional pain, it causes stress and anxiety.
Responding Versus Reacting
Charged memories from the past cause you to react instead of respond to a situation. A reaction is inauthentic, while a response is authentic. A reaction occurs when something happens, and the way you act is blown out of proportion to the severity of the actual situation.
If, for example, someone cuts you off while driving. It is natural to be annoyed or even angry. The feeling of anger is an authentic response. However, if you explode into a rage and can’t get over it, you are in a reaction. Such a reaction is inauthentic because it is out of proportion to the actual event. When you were cut off by the other driver, your mind immediately accessed an emotional charge in your memory bank. This can happen subconsciously, and very quickly. Your mind attached an emotional charge from the past to the anger in the present, and the anger exploded into rage.
Once you are in an emotional charge, it is difficult to calm down because your mind goes into overdrive, piling on other past memories of unresolved anger charges to the event. Soon, your anger is out of control. You are reacting instead of responding.
A reaction is your mind attaching past memories to what happened, even though those past memories may have nothing to do with what actually happened. A response is the natural feeling that arises when something happens to you. A reaction is due to your mind bringing past memories to the present. A response is how you respond in the now moment without any attachments to the past.
Don’t Poke the Bear
Have you ever met a person that seems volatile? You walk on eggshells around them because you feel like anything you say could spark a reaction from the person. This happens because the person is full of unresolved emotional charges from the past. When a person is consumed by memories and emotional charges from the past, they misperceive the present. You may have positive intentions when interacting with such a person, but they misinterpret your actions as they can only see them with eyes clouded by the past.
Living in the Now Helps You Respond Instead of React
To live in the now, you must keep your awareness focused on the present moment. It takes a conscious focus. You witness your thoughts and emotions as they rise and fall. When life throws something you may not like into your path, because you are in an enhanced state of awareness, you can respond appropriately. You can catch your mind and stop it before it brings up past memories. By stopping the emotionally charged memories, you remain in the center and don’t get thrown into a reaction.
Living in the Now Frees You From the Ups and Downs of Life
When you are in the now moment, you become imperturbable. You are not thrown off by what life brings you. You gain the ability to respond instead of react. When you respond, feelings rise and flow through you. You may feel anger or sadness, but they naturally rise and fall. When you react, a sad feeling in the moment stimulates past memories of pain. Over time, the painful memories are piled onto the sadness and can lead to full-blown depression.
Living in the Now Improves Your Relationships
It is challenging to be around an emotionally charged person. To the degree a person is emotionally charged, they are stuck in the past. Just as you may feel uncomfortable around an emotionally charged person, your emotional charges may repel others you wish to have in your life. Emotional charges from the past cause you to close down. No one likes to be around a person who is closed down and reactive.
When you are in the now, you are open and flowing. People feel good being around you. You find yourself smiling a lot more, and others respond positively to that smile.
All relationships have their ups and downs. Conflicts are part of the growing process and, when resolved, strengthen the relationship. Have you ever noticed when having a fight with your friend or intimate relationship, there is a tendency to bring up things from the past? This rarely helps the situation and usually causes it to escalate.
Continually dredging things up from the past eventually leads to the relationship falling apart. Instead, choose to be in the now and leave the past in the past. By doing so, you respond instead of reacting. When you respond instead of reacting, a mutually beneficial solution will arise. The relationship will improve, and you and the other person will grow from the experience.
Living in the Now Means Living in the Flow
When you live in the now, you flow with life. You are open to life experiences, and because you are not stuck in the past, you grow and evolve from them. When you are stuck in the past, you become blinded by memories and misperceive what life is bringing you. Living in the flow is a wonderful state to live in. You are more aware of self, life, and the people in it. Living in the flow fosters a profound sense of well-being that overflows to others around you. When in the flow, you are able to handle whatever life brings your way with greater ease. You have more capability to take life on because you are not saddled with the extra burden of the past.
Living in the Now Expands Your Ability to Read Others
When you are unbound by the past, your perception expands, and you can clearly see other people. You know whether they have negative or positive intentions. You understand their motivations and why they are like they are. This gives you a tremendous leg up on life.
Living in the Now Brings More Love Into Your Life
When you are aware of the present moment, your ability to freely open grows. As you perceive more, your power of discernment increases. You are empowered to choose who you wish to be in your life. You can open up more to people you choose to, and those people respond by being open to you. This fosters open, loving relationships. When two people are living in the now free from conditions from the past, they are capable of creating a conscious relationship filled with unconditional love.
Could Living in the Now Be the Ultimate Law of Attraction?
Living in the now brings well-being, imperturbability, expanded perception, the enhanced ability to discern, and the ability to live in the flow. Life becomes richer, and you find yourself loving life and the people in it even more. Your open and loving energy attracts good things and wonderful people. You find new opportunities and relationships coming to you without effort. Free from the chains of the past, you attract wonderful experiences that fulfill your deepest desires.
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Why Wouldn’t You Live in the Now?
In The Power of Now, A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment Eckhart Tolle beautifully lays out how living in the now leads to spiritual enlightenment. On the way to enlightenment living in the now also brings you more love in your life, empowers you, puts you in the flow, and enables you to create the life of your dreams. With all these wonderful benefits why wouldn’t you live in the now?
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