How The Phrase “I Will Try” Keeps Us Away From Achieving Our Goals

And what words to use instead when talking about our goals.

Laine Kaleja
Dec 4, 2020 · 4 min read
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What we think, we say, and what we say we do. Our results come from our actions. Before we take action, we have a thought, or we say a word.

One of the wisest steps in our growth process is to pay attention to our words. What are the words we use when we talk about ourselves, our dreams, goals, other people, our circumstances, and our commitment?

Words “I will try” are one example of when words we say don’t contribute to our growth and goal-achievement but instead keep us away from achieving results.

The Language Of “I Will Try”

When you say “I will try,” that does not involve commitment.

When you are using these words, you are not confident about the action you will take and the outcome.

You are saying, “I will do something, but I am not sure if I will do everything it takes to finish the task or succeed.”

Consequently, when challenging circumstances arise, you might find an excuse for why you can’t do it. Or rationalize away the importance of why you have to do something.

Saying “I will try” always provides the way out if you don’t like something, don’t feel like so, or don’t know how to do it.

You can always say, “I tried, but it didn’t work.”

But what about the “I didn’t try enough” possibility?

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What To Say Instead?

Say “I will do that” instead.

Think twice if you are ready to carry through on your words, “I will.”

Doing what you say is a golden characteristic of genuinely successful and trustworthy people.

“I will do it” means you will do what it takes to get done with the task instead of finding an excuse.

Saying “I will do” means finding a way when things are not easy and don’t go our way.

When you say, “I will do,” then as challenging and adverse circumstances come your way, you will think, “How can I do it?” instead of “Should I do it?”

Approaching the task with an attitude of “How can I do it?” rather than “Should I?” is one of the principles in Rory Vaden’s book “Take the Stairs.” Rory calls “should-heads” those who often ask themselves, “Should I do it?” when faced with making a decision or needing to be disciplined.

A lot of emotional energy is spent thinking, “should I do it?” leaving no place for finding a solution on how to do it.

The Role Of Commitment

Our lives are hectic, and they are overflooded with loads of information from millions of different sources. And achieving goals is not easy. It does require commitment.

Often people become afraid of the word commitment. Nevertheless, that is the word that can guarantee your success in achieving what you want.

Difficult circumstances will inevitably arise on your way to your goal. But if you commit from the very beginning, you will overcome them, not give up and persist long enough to make it happen.

The surest way to guarantee the outcome is from the very beginning to commit that you will do what it takes, find a way, bring a solution on how you can do it. You will do it then instead of just trying.


Pay close attention to the words you use every day when speaking to others. A simple change in vocabulary can make a change in your actions.

“I will do” will open your mind to creative solutions and keep you accountable for your commitment.

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