How to Be Cruel Despite Your Empathic Nature
Understanding the origins and overcoming toxic empathy
You’re not born cruel, you become it through the hardships of life.
On the contrary, you’re born and likely educated to kindness and toxic empathy.
Let me explain.
Handling Conflicts as a Child
Most children born in stable countries have likely grown up in overprotected families.
They had superficial issues.
They’ve been lulled into comfort.
So they never learn to be cruel because they never had to be.
Result: When other kids confronted them for the first time at school, they didn’t know how to react.
Those childhood experiences shaped the adults you’ve become. And you still bear scars from that period.
How did you respond to bullies?
How were you positioned in the social hierarchy?
Who were you bullying?
You need to answer these questions if you want to better understand how to manage today’s confrontation.
