How to Craft the Perfect Social Facade
Charm and the art of mask-wearing
Be yourself is terrible advice.
It leads people to find you weird and repulsive. And all you’ll gain by staying authentic is rejection and a secret urge from your peers to take you down.
A way better advice would be to wear a social mask tailored to the circumstance.
“Acting naturally” is the biggest and most universal lie we all desperately cling to.
Yes, we crave genuine connections in friendships, professional settings, and social gatherings. But that’s rarely what we get.
These areas are governed by the inescapable power games.
Sometimes our careers are at play. Other times it’s a group’s approval or romantic affairs. Every time, you want to make a good impression, which requires adopting and practicing social codes that will help you excel in these initial contacts.
People claim they want you to be yourself…
But what they truly desire is for you to fit into their narrow mold of the perfect co-worker, friend, or lover.
They want you to play a role that THEY’VE defined as the right one.
They want to be seduced by YOUR performance.
