How To Keep Relationship In Your Control
Does it take time to break the relationship? Saying Goodbye is so simple.
Many of us travel extreme miles to many countries to seek the blessings of the holy God. We seldom use our inner power to remain blessed always. I have this misconception; I keep wandering in a quest to get a divine blessing to improve my life. Last week, I listened to a spiritual guru, B K Shivani changed my outlook.
What is Your Inner Blessing Mechanism?
Your inner power to send lovely blessings to others, and in return, stay blessed always. We go out in the world and say, please bless me. Get this excellent formula implemented in your life right away.
How can I create a blessing for someone who is not pleasant to you?
Relate to this experience as an illustration. You walk into your college canteen and want to say “hello” to one of your classmates who you know. The moment she saw you, she turned bluntly and moved away swiftly.
What thought will you now create for her?
Breakup is simple: no shouting, exploitation, or lying. You walked up with a big smile, thinking you would say a warm hello and give a hug, but other people ignored you and walked away.
What would be your thoughts–Okay -I am on my way, and she is on the highway.
Which means you are not interested, nor am I interested. You go your way, and I go my way. Life is so simple.
And we called it simple; it’s okay if someone does not bother you. We never thought for a second to go to a complicated way to ask what happened. It could be your girl/boyfriend, boss, classmate, or better half.
We don’t bend to survive the relationship and pause for a while instead of just walking away and stopping all communications. All this happens in seconds, and things turn upside down in your life.
It has affected both sides, but we say it — let’s move on; so simple.
What happens afterwards, we all have experienced many times. We remain in isolation with our phones, looking for whom to talk to, and start looking at the world to shoulder us. You tweet on social media — somebody is there to shoulder my pain, and then you find many who will say, yeah, it happens with me.
Forget your past relationship and move on. It is so simple. It is because we want to get to a more straightforward path- if you are not friendly to me, it’s bye forever.
This attitude is causing problems in relationships since no one wants to bend to carry forward the conversation. Everyone wants to be straight. No education system has taught us bending is normal. We get into spirituality after getting old, thinking this is not the time to get to spirituality.
With this, we get into the habit of saying bye-bye to friends, then jobs, and eventually close relationships with a divorce. We call it normal and follow social media trends which say it is so common to have a divorce.
Love at first sight and divorce at first fight is so common.
And finally, we remain alone with our phones and laptop and talk on social media to friends out there who have been through a similar situation. We have said bye-bye to good near one.
Author’s Creation
Do we have the power and courage to return to our lost relationships with beautiful thoughts?
We always stood straight mentally and physically, making bending difficult. Why should I bend? We always thought standing straight was simple and bending was difficult. This belief becomes our habits and, thus, actions.
Being straight has become my natural way, and I never learned to bend. How many of us have the power to go directly to someone and ask what the problem is? Why are you ignoring me?
We can all do this, but thoughts that prevent us from going ahead are, why should “I” do it?
The ego comes as a barrier — the ego tells your inner self why you talk to her and why not. There are thousands of people available for you, and why do you want to speak to this person?
Again, social media comes to the rescue telling you to move on from this relationship. Search for a new relationship as if it is normal.
Now you have to answer this ego and what you should say to your ego.
Author’s Creation
I am bending because I want to be flexible, happy, and healthy. I want to vibrate at a higher frequency, and it is nothing to do with others.
Spirituality taught us to be grateful to others for not being nice to us since this allows us to bend and get away from the habit of always being straight in our ego. Say thank you to others for helping to reduce false ego.
This belief will help you remain happy throughout your personal life or your job.
Give gratitude to those who are not friendly because they help you get your real hidden power. This belief will help you survive in your most challenging situations. It has the magical power that will help you sail through. The problem might seem impossible to resolve, but you can do this with your inner strength, you can do.
You can now talk to anyone you thought was not pleasant to you in the past. You will better negotiate and bring solutions to the table. You have the physical and emotional power to control the situation since you learn to bend.
The day you are happy means you are more flexible and have learned to bend. There is nothing wrong if you need to turn always because this keeps you comfortable and more flexible.
Now how to proceed further? It is social media advice that sits together and sorts the issue. It is okay to sit but not right to bring up the past and make each other realize what others have thought about you. This process may create further distance and disturbance instead of sorting out the issue. The best is to accept each other the way it is and proceed ahead. It heals your relationship if you send positive thoughts and do not dig into the worst past.
We don’t need both people to feel nice; we only need one.
We need to think every one personality is different, and expecting that to change the way you want is not correct. Instead, radiate good vibrations so that your nature influences others.
I think this is the primary reason for divorce: lack of acceptance of personality and always expecting to change the way you want. It might be inappropriate sometimes, but breaking the relationship because the characters are different is also inappropriate.
The golden rule here is to accept the person and do good to influence your personality to bring change. The moment you expect an instantaneous change, it will either have a clash of personalities or move apart from the relationship. We seldom give another shift in a relationship, and breaking away seems the most straightforward option, but it is not as simple as we all think.
In Conclusion
The hard part of the relationship is to maintain the relationship through the difficulties of life. Breaking the relationship is so simple at the drop of a hat; the relationship breaks. Learn to preserve the relationship by bending simply because of yourself.
You will remain happy if you keep preserving the relationship and a deep belief that bending is okay.
Social media advice is infectious on “Move on”, Move on where to depression & loneliness?
Maintaining a relationship requires the substance to the character.
