How To Start Building Your Resiliency.
Our Life experience can make us victims or survivors it depends on our own perspectives about the situations and what we are focusing on. If we are used to being victims even if a positive tool is present to change your life we ignore it.
A great example I always look up to is Oprah. She has a history of abuse, even a difficult childhood, but it didn’t stop her. She used them as her tools to get back in life and reach a high level of success despite her challenging life.
There are many people who came back from a challenging childhood what is common among them is “ Resiliency”. This also proves that challenges can actually help us grow in life.
According to psychologists resilience can be learned, if you haven’t had a chance to develop resilience it is never too late. Following steps working for me hope it will help you.
- Face the hard truth: If unexpected situations happen, the first reaction is disbelief. Whether it’s as common as problems with parents, wife or husband, children, workloads, etc. But staying in this stage for too long prevents you from accepting what has happened.
- Don’t let fear sabotage what you decide to do: Fear can impact our decisions by sabotaging us. Some of the fearful assumptions, according to the author of the book “ The Fear Cure” are “ I am all alone, it’s a hostile universe, I can’t handle losing what I cherish, uncertainty is unsafe. But replace them with four courage-cultivating truths they are “ We are all one, It’s a purposeful universe, loss is natural and can lead to growth, and uncertainty is the gate to possibility.
- We can overcome it : Something overcoming is a psychological trick. It is taking action , having inner strength and belief to know that you can overcome your problems. We feel embarrassed, ashamed and blame ourselves for what happens to us and numb the pain and avoid it. Once we accept what happened to us we become survivors.
- Have a strong network around you : If you’re surrounding yourself around people who are victims you are most likely gonna become a victim. So, surround yourself with the right people.
- Don’t act impulsively: When unexpected situations happen, avoid reacting impulsively and try to think calmly and rationally.
