How to Stop Living Like a Zombie
It’s Painful
Have you ever felt that everyday is a burden for you?
Wake up every morning without enthusiasm to go to work. Thinking that you will meet your evil boss or colleagues. Thinking about how your office environtment is destroying you mentally, but no matter what, you need this job. So, you come to office everyday, doing your job, serving your boss and colleagues without passion. Your face is frowned and pale, you walk slow, always feel weak, glazed eyes. That’s how living like a zombie be like. I was there before. It was painful.
Then, I realised that it was bad for myself and for others, especially those who are close to me. I released my anger to them. Until one of them told me to stop and I needed to control myself. That words slapped me in my face. Yes, I needed to control myself. I needed to stop living like a zombie, because it is painful. For me and for others.
Since living like a zombie is painful, therefore, in this article, I would like to give tips on how to stop living like a zombie.
- Quit from what you’re doing
I know it’s easier said than done. However, when you quit the things that make you unhappy, trust me it will be satisfying.
You are unhappy with your job? then quit. Remember, do not quit before you find a new one. I know this is not easy, especially since the pandemic. Most companies postpone their recruitment. If you still can’t quit from what you‘re doing, please continue to read #2.
2. Find something that you like as side hustle
You have a hobby? You can turn your hobby as your side hustle to ‘stay alive’. Yes, you need something to get you stay alive when you are still stuck in a life or job you are actually not happy with. Having a side hustle apart from your unhappy main job or life could brighten up your day. You will be more motivated to live your day. Other than that, you will not have time to be angry because of your situation.
For me, when I was still stuck in my zombie life, i tried to find something that I like, which is online interior design. I do online interior design as my side hustle, because it has been my passion. Help other people to do interior planning, so they can have their dream home interior is satisfying for me.
Apart from that, I write articles on Medium. As interior design, crafting useful articles and share them to people who might need is enliven my soul. My mind is occupied to be creative, so I don’t have time for sadness and being a zombie. To be honest, It’s good for my mental sanity at office as well, no matter how crazy it is. Because I know, I will have something that is satisfying after work.
3. Cut the toxicity
Do you always cry in your relationship? Does your partner hurt you often? But, you are too in love with that person and you can’t leave them. You choose to live in pain in order to stick with them. That’s when you live like a zombie. Beyond your subconscious, you don’t want to be there, but you just don’t want to lose them. You know what, that situation is toxic for you. You need to cut the relationship.
When i was still married, my ex husband was drunk almost everyday. In 7 days, maybe it was only 1 or 2 days he came home without being drunk. It wasn’t only that. Every time he came back home drunk, I would be his anger impingement. He might be angry with his colleagues, but I was always the one whom he yelled to. He would scold and abused me with words and threw things at me. It happened almost every night. But, I couldn’t leave him that time, because I thought I couldn’t live without him. Other than that, he wouldn’t allow me to go out without him, because he was scared I would cheat on him. I was stuck.
Until one final moment when he forced me to get out of work, when I still had much to do at office. He scolded me at home and thought I was cheated on him. The words came like a water from my mouth,” I want a divorce”. Then, here I am now, years later. Live without being yelled every night. Happier than before. I am grateful that I cut the toxicity.
As takeaway, stop living like a zombie, because it is painful for yourself and other people. To stop living like a zombie, you need to quit from what you are doing, find something that you like as side hustle, and cut the toxicity from your life.
“No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.” Barbara de Angelis
