Human Hood
How many times have we reasoned our inability to control emotions to being human? How many times have we lost control over ourselves and never felt guilty because we thought it was human to do so? How many times have we felt proud of being able to emote to certain situations fiercely because we thought that’s what human beings do?
Of course, it’s all human. We get angry; we feel depressed; we get irritated; we have our ego; we have our dignity. It’s all human feelings.
But, if we could pause a little to think before we emote, maybe we could develop better ways of dealing with it.
Have you ever thought about being better-than-human? This is no wordplay or a hypothetical state, just a mental being that results from attentive mental work-out.
Let’s think about the image we have created about ‘being human’. To react to situations, reflexively, or after multiple thoughts is what we call human. But is that a rational way of handling problems, and what do we consider when analysing a situation before reacting?
We have pre-assumed that shouting at someone when we are angry, hurting someone for our ego, disrespecting people when we think our dignity is at stake, grieving for our self when we are depressed are all human behaviours, and that it’s okay to behave so.
But what if we can react better than that? What if we can take a few deep breaths and calm ourselves down before we behave? What if we can handle our emotions from someone else’s view? What if we can dilute our vibes before putting the person dealing with us in a state of unease?
I completely understand that all this is easier said than done. Still, this is not impractical when done with constant, conscious practice.
Every time we are put in a situation of extreme emotion, if we can put off our feelings to retort spontaneously, take some time to relax and decide to behave with a positive attitude, it would not only lighten the situation but give us a feeling of gratification for having behaved better than usual. And that we have been more than just human.
For example, conveying with a smile the mistake of your co-worker because you know you could avoid spoiling his day. Apologising to your loved one even when you feel you weren’t wrong because you know you value the relationship more than your ego. Speaking kind words to a long-lost friend because you know your concern is more important than your dignity.
It would also include being kind to yourself and motivating yourself out of depression because you know grief earns nothing.
It’s just about adding a bit of positive sprinkle to the daily acts of life and being happy about having acknowledged instances in a way better than a human.
If you think life would be blunt and dull if it were void of such emotions- remember you are only diminishing how you react to extreme negative feelings. This would not affect how you respond to your happy senses.
So, why be human when we can be better than that!
