I rejected a girl to focus more on my work

After seven years, she contacted me, and I rejected her within three days.

Inu Etc
Published in
2 min readMar 15


Photo by Sasha Freemind on Unsplash

Yesterday, I rejected a girl so that I could focus more on my work, and I have no regrets.

Several years ago, we were friends, but then we got disconnected for seven years.

A week ago, she suddenly contacted me and confessed her love to me.

Although she was very serious about the relationship, she is not independent, and she is still immature.

Every time I talk to her, I get distracted because I keep thinking about her afterward.

A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.

At the moment, I don’t really have any feelings for her and I think getting into a relationship and acting like a lover when I’m not actually one is a betrayal.

It will only create problems and distract us both if we get into a relationship now.

I also have the fear (pistanthrophobia) of getting hurt in a romantic relationship. I’m sure that the more we talk, the more attached we’ll be, and if we get into trouble (which will surely happen since we’re both young), we’ll have to cut it off suddenly, and that’ll be a painful experience for both of us.

As someone who has experienced this before, I can tell you that once you are deeply attached to someone, it can be really hard to move on.

Therefore, instead of creating a mess with her, I decided to reject her and move on.

I told her to focus on her career and be independent so that she can make her own decisions in the future.

Her response was that she would focus on her career and wait for me.

At first, she was upset because I probably sounded rude. In the end, she understood everything (I hope so) and promised not to contact me until she became independent.

Let’s see what happens in the future.

Thanks for reading this article. 💚

If you loved what you read, would you be able to buy me a cup of coffee? It’s okay if you can’t right now.

If you have any questions or if you wanna work with me, feel free to contact me. I’m always available to help young hustlers like you @InuEtc on Instagram.

Keep hustling!

InuEtc.com from Inuidea.com



Inu Etc

I help young hustlers build their own online businesses. | Inuidea.com | InuEtc.com | Writer, Blogger, Web Developer, SEO, Traveler | Email - hi@inuetc.com