I Was “The Other Women” for 2 Years Here’s Why Shaming Won’t Stop Cheating Scandals
Hate the other woman. Love them. Society enables them.
Being the other woman is nothing to brag about. When it comes to cheating, “the cheater” is assumed to be the narcissist, “the betrayed wife” is the victim while “the other woman” is the she-devil destroying a happy home.
No one wants to know if the other woman is the victim like the clueless wife or if the cheater is as sadistic as the narcissists we compare him to.
Cheating is often viewed as black and white. The unsuspecting partner always takes centre stage. But we are more sympathetic when the betrayed partner is the wife than when it’s the husband.
If a woman cheats on her husband, we try to justify her actions saying, “The man must be the reason she stepped out of their marriage.” But if the role was reversed, we feel sorry for the woman and take out the blame on “the other woman” her man cheated with.
As a young girl, I had my dreams and aspirations lined up. I wanted to make an impact in the world with my talents. My dream of becoming a prolific writer occupied my thoughts but I didn’t know how to achieve it.
